A girl I dated a few years back texts back and forth every few months. I ended the relationship since she has a kid and only gave me one night a week.

She just got a bf a month ago and textd to tell me. Not sure why she did. ( Make me jelous?)
I simply responded about time you are happy.

Today I was thinking about her for no reason and two mins later.. she txtd me out of the blue to say I hope you are happy have a good xmas. I responded thanks you also and I random on her timing. She then responded she has a serious Bf and she thinks as me as a friend now.

Why would she text me this nonsense? She is obviously still thinking of me.

How should I respond to flirt and to keep her attracted?

Just... Don't. Really. This will get nasty. Find other girls and just don't care about this one.

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I have an ex that does this to me all the time. One thing I keep in mind when a woman tells me something. What a woman wants and says are two different things. I have discovered this out quite quickly when I applied this to the things they tell me. My advice would be not to bother with it. Drama is annoying.

Agree with other posters.

All she's trying to do is display her own value to you. If this weren't true, there would be no need to mention a bf unless you asked.

What is the point of keeping her attracted to you? Better to keep girls you are interested in attracted to you and forget about ones you aren't.

Ya I know you are all correct.

Also proves I was correct when hanging out with her. She was looking for a father figure for her little kid.

Tell her nice, I hope he fucks half as good as I do so you can gain some shred of happiness lol This only works if you have a cocky/asshole persona and say it with a smirk.

This happens to me...

She's definitely interested, and she's playing the jealousy card.

So...text her back I hope your boyfriend finds your great eyes, great body, how fun you are on the weekend etc. Compliment her on stuff you liked about her. This reminds her of all the good things you think about her (Pull- positive emotion) and then attach it to her boyfriend (Pull- you can't have me because you have a boyfriend).

Your dangling the string and then pulling it away. Push Pull.

Thanks Cool this sounds like a great response to her. Although not sure to respond this until she texts next since this has been a week ago.

Don't respond at all. Asking her if her new guy appreciates what you liked about her is so transparent. Sounds like the lyrics to N-Sync's "Girlfriend".

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Don't.

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Seriously, don't. You're looking for reasons to respond, and clever ways to do so that will enable you to get with her again. Her play for attention is working. Dance, puppet!

Take it from a 30 year old who makes a habit of "dating" 18-22's. You try, it fails, move on. Abundance mentality. Why is your ex so special?

Dont even respond. She is a narcissistic bitch trying to get attention from you. She doesnt give a fuck about you just your attention. Dont indulge her unless you want to give her the upper hand or you want to get back together with her and let her continue to fuck up your life. Two words: no contact!

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Cool Hand Luke, that's what I would do. "I hope he treats you the way you deserve". But dude, you didn't want the one day she gave you so, don't be jealous or bothered by it. Move on.

I passed on mine and was tough, she was cool girl and we had lot of passion and romance but she had a little kid and would not give me time, only when convenient for her. She expected me to put her #1 and be available when she was.