I'm a freshman at a college and was at a party when i met this girl whose a HB8. We hit it off right from the start and were making out within the first 2 hours. We hooked up a week later and after sex she seemed weird but i ended figuring out she wasn't the type of girl to have sex with a guy she only knew for a week.

I told her she didn't have to worry about me never talking to her again or thinking shes a slut so immediately after that we spent the next month hooking up about every week. We hung out a lot and i started to realize this girl may be a keeper since she had a really low # of guys shes hooked up, we shared a lot of values, and have a great time every time we hangout.

So when we are hanging out after about a month and a half of dating i start telling her i want her to stop playing the text mind games and basically tell her, her effort should match mine at this point on our relationship. She tells me well we aren't in a relationship and she doesn't want a relationship since it her first year of college, which really surprised me considering the fact i had to tell her she wasn't just a pump and dump to have sex with her again. I tell her i hang out with other girls but really only enjoy hanging out with her and if i spend so much time on her i don't want her talking to other guys (i know i fucked up). She gets flustered and says she doesn't know how she feels so i tell her she can leave but she insists on staying and we fuck that night.

So since that night she has told me she really likes me and loves hanging out with me but she thinks we want different things and she doesn't want to waste me time. Yet after that, she continued to text me and ask questions like what im doing or if im going to some event. I ask her to hangout and she completely ignores the question and replies with something completely irrelevant so I just stop texting her but she always texts back. So the other week i text her i think we should just be friends to try and get some power back and she replied lol okay. i didn't respond and its been a couple weeks with zero contact

At this point I'm really confused as to what her feelings are and why she is being so hot and cold. I'm not sure if telling her we should just be friends was the right way to go but at least if contact is ever reestablished I'm not the one chasing her around anymore. I'm also not sure if I should ever try and recontact her because that would blow all the credibility of what I say.

Man, you had a good thing going for you which is now jeopardised by the attempt to go exclusive. She was just being honest, chicks in their freshman year of college want to experiment and party, not be tied in a relationship. Hot and cold would be a situation like one week you are exclusive and the next she's doing some random dude she met at a party. You kinda lost the credibility when you asked her first to go steady with you, then when she freaked out you proposed to be just friends. Hint: LJBF-ing doesn't work when you're the one that wants the relationship more. It's a weak move in your position, much like an ultimatum.

One way to recover what you had would be to meet her and tell her that you figured out that the way things were was just fine and that you want to keep seeing her casually (not on a "just friends" basis) without pressure, expectations or labels. Show her that you are a cool guy that can handle competition and has a lot of things going for him. When your plate is full, you don't have the time to be possessive and needy.
Good luck!

Yeah I'm also wondering if the attraction is still there after all this. It seemed to me like it was with texting but then i don't understand why she would ignore my invitations to hangout. Also part of the reason i was so quick to try and get her locked down was the fact break was coming up and her ex bf from home was showing up in her phone more than i liked, but now i see the hole i dug for myself by worrying.

You had it good man haha. But we all make mistakes its probably to bad to recover now but just live and learn.

I wouldn't say it's too late to recover. This situation is pretty much the exact same situation I'm in. Freshman year, meet a girl whose awesome, doesn't want a relationship, so on and so forth. Same thing to the letter. Get back in contact with her. Go a little AFC and tell her sorry for giving her an ultimatum. Slowly pick up the conversation again and try to establish the same connection you shared before. It would help 10 fold if you bumped into her and did it in person, a call would be good, but if you really don't want to do either of those just shoot her a text saying, "hey thought of you." or say something reminded you of her. You can even start with a question like, "hey can I ask you something?" just to get a response. Questions always have a higher chance of response because it sparks curiosity. Then just escalate. It may take time to get her back, so be patient.

Not a bad thing. You want different things so now you know that. Move on and find/fuck other girls. You want a gf, she wants to be free. Why continue with her when you want different things? Continuing fucking her would only waste time that you can use to find a better girl.