Now I seem to have this reoccurring problem when I get past the dating stage and start approaching the relationship stage. It seems that most women I have encountered have this selfish attitude where all they ever care about is there needs and are never understanding or caring. I'm guy's guy so I don't need constant consoling or pampering but all this girl cares about is what I don't do for her. Yet she can't hold herself to the same standards. This is not the first time I have been through this with a woman. It's like when she can't see me because she has plans its okay. But if I can't see her because I have business obligations she gets an attitude and blames me. Plus it seems like I always have to be the one who initiates communication. She won't call or text me unless I do it first. I think it may have something to do with california women too. When I have been out of state it seems like some parts of the country the women are more accommodating towards their men. Cali women are so self centered.

My last girlfriend was the same way. All she ever did was talk about herself and was never interested in what was going on in my life. Plus I didn't come from a family of privilege, my upbringing was somewhat screwed up so dealing with these princesses who come from perfect lives can be somewhat frustrating. So I am just wondering how do you deal with these selfish women? Do I just drop them, because it seems to be the majority of women out here are like that.

I'm not sure how you react when a girl blows you off with plans, but it sounds like you may be too accommodating for her. If you allow her to slide when she blows you off, of course she isn't going to care. She isn't worried that anything bad will come of canceling plans. Next time she blows you off, be more assertive about it and call her out on doing it.

I would say to severely scale back the amount of investment you put into these girls. Stop initiating conversations, and stop showing a general concern about what she considers important. Once you take them off their self-made pedestal, then they will start seeing eye to eye with you.

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"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time."

Have some self respect, walk away if you don't think they're good enough for you or stepping up to the plate.

You invested a lot in her, and you are clearly showing it by having to call her first, always initiate conversations, and let her get mad if you cancel on her. It's pretty obvious. Value yourself and walk away, you're done here, but that's just my opinion. Learn and move on.

Cali women and American women can be self centered, no doubt.

However, there may be a inner game issue when a pattern is repeating "I seem to have this reocurring problem". I know, I've been there.

There's a book "Real Love, Right Now: A Celebrity Love Architect's Thirty-Day Blueprint for Finding Your Soul Mate" if you really want to approach this problem on a deeper level.

There's also a technique in the book- Go to a place with a lot of women. Tell yourself you soul mate is here.
Pick the first level of three women your attracted to. Throw those out.
Pick 2nd level of 3 women your attracted to. Throw those out. (The first two levels are what your ego is attracted to).
NOW...Tell yourself your soul mate is here. Pick the 3rd level of 3 women your attracted too and why. This is what your soul wants. (If done correctly it will be women you've never really considered and your future attraction will shift).

Also another book:
Let Love In: Open Your Heart and Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner; by Debra Berndt