I am on a 6 month deployment. 4 months in and my girlfriend and I have our first fight and this fight is leading her second guessing us.
It all started with her not sending a message for a couple days. I finally decided to message her. Wtf, are you ok? She takes it the wrong way and says I am over reacting. Long story short shit hits the fan and now she is stressed and does not think she can handle the stress it brings. We talked everything out and it went fine for a couple days before she sent me this message. Saying Anthony I like you but I don't know about this it's stressing me out. I asked her what's stressing her. Things will stress you out you just got to keep moving forward, everything will get better. I got this back It's a lot of things. I know it will get better but I don't know what to say its hard I have to focus on y self and honestly that makes me not have a lot of time for you ad you get kinda needy when I don't give you the right attention. It's just a lot of things my gut has been telling me. We can talk more about it later just focus on your self today pretend I don't exist.
Little back ground on her. She is 23 lives with her parents because of college and she hates it now she wants to live on her own and do things for herself to be an adult.
I feel I am falling back to my old self and searching for her attention. Before this deployment everything was fine and now it's distancing us because I am becoming needy. I blame it on my location, I don't have anything to distract me out of only thinking about her.

First. Sorry your going through this and thanks for what your over there doing for us.

I've got to admit the first thing that comes to my mind here is anger. Your thousands of miles from home serving your country and this women wants to call you needy for wanting to talk to her. I think she needy's to show some respect. Your in battle and have time for her and she can't turn off jersey shore to talk to you. I know it's harsh but I'd dump this girl. She's not worth another minute of your worries. Your the hero dude. Focus on being safe and getting the job done over there. Will be lots of girls to welcome you home. I'd make sure she wasn't one of them. What an ingrate.


Sorry man and thanks again

Thanks man I appreciate it. I am just out here doing what I signed up to do. I let her know from the get go that I will deploy. I gave her the option right off the bat to walk away or stay. I think she just views it as I want all of her time and I don't. All I want is a message that takes a minute to write. I don't know why I should search for that. It's difficult times when your deployed. Stress is at high. You work sleep eat and workout. My down time is at minimum. While she is sleeping, I am awake and while she is awake I am sleeping. I need a mom destroyer because she is controlling her daughter to much. I think the biggest problem is that she thinks like us sometimes. Once we start thinking it brings up too many negative thoughts and doubt the whole situation. I think I am becoming needy because she use to be the one texting and always wanting to talk and now it's me wanting it. It's confusing and making me feel lower value.

Respect for what you're doing there..

I suppose you could sarge the Taliban's wives with some bf destroyer mystery method routines

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I like the way you think! Cuckold the terrorists. Lmao excellent.

Been there, been through the same stuff. I was married in when i was deployed for all of 2004, she gave me divorce papers on my 2 week leave, 8months into my 12month deployment. It is alot of stress on both ends of a deployment. There isnt many women out there that can handle a deployed boyfriend or husband. When they get to stressing they start turning to someone at home, you just have to hope that it is a family member but more times than not it isnt.

But my advice, there is nothing you can do while being 8000 miles away. There is nothing worth fighting bout over a phone or text message. And if gf is saying you are being to needy because you want to chat with her from time to time to get your mind off being at war. Drop her ass, and being ready to game lots of women once you come home. Hell message a few ex's or some women you would like to hook up with that you havent in the past on facebook or something. Chat them up, let them know when you are coming home, and line them up for when you get home.

Update on this post. Thanks for all the advice guys. Been back I. The states for a month now and went on a rampage of fucking. First night back hooked up with a cop lol. No fucks given