Hey

I would love some thoughts on ho to approach my dilemma. I will in advance apologies for any language errors.

Background story:
My girlfriend(20) and I(22) have been exclusive for 14 month. We both study full time at in the same city, I have my own apartment while she live with her parents. Through our time we have had our share of relationship issues with, in my opinion, we have dealt with with a nice outcome. We have a fine sexual life, where I am the dominant and the one with the biggest sex drive.

1. Dilemma:
My girlfriend suffers from endometriosis, which once a while requires us to lay of sex for a couple of days, due to pain if I penetrate her. Due to endometriosis have worsened, we haven't been able to have sex for 2 months. Mostly when she is on her period or we can't have intercourse she enjoy giving head. But these 2 months with out sex she hasn't given my "special friend" that much attention. She have maybe twice grabbed it with her hands, wanked it a bit(lasting less than 1 minute probably) and just stopped. She hasn't been into cuddling which she usually loves when we sleep together. I know its tough for her, and I had taken a little talk with her about it which just leads to her saying she doesn't want me to get aroused when I can't fuck her.

1. Question:
How to handle this kinds of periods with no sex? I have experienced that I flirt a bit more with other girls than I usually do, to a point where, from the look on the girls, got disappointed when I said goodbye and left without asking them to come home with me. I have caught myself in fantasizing, while jerking off, about fucking these other girls, take them home with me and cheat on my girlfriend with these girls.
How do I bring the more sexual flirting back into the relationships and how do I make sure my needs are needed?

Bonus question: How to make my girlfriend, which is daddys little good girl, try experiment with sex? Like anal, costumes, sexylingerie and stuff like that? Any guides? And my own problem, can't reach orgasm by oral sex, even though I am in seven heavens I just don't finish, and thoughts?

Any comments, links to articles concerning this and advice are much appreciated Thanks in advance!
If needing more information just ask and I will answer.

First off youre too young to be burdened with these issues. 22 is far too young to be locked into a dull relationship.

Second, its a perspective on the sex issue. If there is a real issue its disrespectful to just bail on her because of lack of sex (all else being great). But having said that if there was no medical issue I would have bailed so fast her head would spin. Shes also being selfish by ignoring your needs. Not something that flys in my world. Are you doing things to turn her on? Try turning her on... clitoral stimulation shouldnt hurt her. Learning how to make a woman cum in many situations will greatly improve your life!! If youre doing your duties and shes not giving back then thats a different story. Make things hot again...pleasure her and reevaluate.

Bonus: Qualify women that are into these things. Learn to lead a woman. I have found that a woman that is in "love" and being constructively and respectfully lead will do just about anything.

I have found finishing with a woman during oral to be alot of a womans skillset. If shes not good or timid about it its hard for me to finish. Again, qualification is key. I never have a LTR with a woman that cant please me sexually.

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

You have to remember she has endometriosis, so there's a chance pain could be severe down there. If she's not interested it's probably because she can't take it. Has she gotten any SPAM for her problem? Also, do you love her? If not, why not break things off with her?

Talk with her, ask her how she feels.

Thanks for the response

Well, I might now have been clear enough at first MrBreeze, but due to endometriosis, when she have those days with pain, she wont allow me anywhere close to her pussy. She says that this specific area is really irritated in those periods.

I would say I still did my part of the share to turn her on. Kissing, cuddling, walks, flirting, having fun and commented on her look(positively ofcouse). Her mood have been a bit low these two months and I have had some mood swings due to feeling frustrated with my needs and me not being able to figure this thing out.

My life is to short to a dull relationship, but in my world, if we look besides this, everything is going great. We have had our ups and downs, talked it out and got on. Im not allways the easiest guy to be in a relationship with due to some hard things I have been through a couple of years ago.

Brem89, she is visiting the doctor, they told her there isnt anything to do really. Its something which will be for the rest of her life and possible means she can't have children. I have insisted that she visits the doctor and talk with him about the pain she have had these two months. In the beginning she didn't want to and told me there wasnt anything to do and accused me of just wanting sex. I did respond its not about sex, but that I need the intimacy with her. She just yesterday agreed to make an appointment at the doctor.

MrBreeze, I haven't been able to make her orgasm. She told me she were raped twice and thats the reason she hold back and cant give in to an orgasm. I have had no problems made girls orgasm, never in a one night stand though.

She is my first serious relationship, and I believe mostly we are doing good. I would prefer to stay with her, but I think if things doesn't see a change in the nearly future I will have to leave her before I end up cheating to satisfy my needs.

What am I doing wrong, since she doesn't really wanna be intimate with me like she used to?

Hmmm, ok. Must be a rather severe case then... Ive had GFs with it and didnt seem to be such an issue. Are you sure shes not exaggerating this? Not saying she is but women do lie...

Overall this sounds like a case where a hard walk needs to happen. I've said it before, and taken shit for it, but women that have been raped or worse violently raped can be more than its worth. Im sure shes a great girl but "ups and downs" shouldn't be normal in any healthy relationship and it sounds like there is some growth needed for both of you. That and your age is a strong move on in my book.

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

No, Im not sure if she lies, though I can't see what she gain from lying in this case?

Its a hard to say if the right thing is to dumb her or stay with her. If we look besides the sex, she have the personality of what I like, she is the kind of girl I imagine marrying one day 10 years from now. I think in my current situation, where I am pretty busy, I have chosen to stay in this relationship because there are so good moments with her and that I simply don't have enough time to pick new girls up every weekend. I believe I am more satisfied(except for these two months) by being with my girlfriend that hooking up randoms.

She defiantly needs to mature. I have trying to move out from home and get her own room in some girls apartment.

I'm a bit curious, what do you think I need to "grow" with? I know I have to work more with some of my experiences which I have from Afghanistan, which I am doing(seeing a psychologist once a while).

With the sex, I try to lead which I believe I do very well up to a point. Again, besides these two months, we have had alot of sex alot of different places. We just haven't experimented that much. She says she want to try with me, but when the time comes she delays it. She even bring up on her own but again delays it when we come to it. How should I approach this so we actually do the stuff we talk about?

You have to ask yourself if she is worth going through this for the rest of your life. Is not being able to have regular sex something you can deal with. If yes, keep her, if no move on as you've said she will have this condition for the rest of your life. Also, ask yourself if you want to have your own children one day. These are you choices.

Secondly, if you decide that you can live with her condition, communicate that to her and let her know that you want her to be initimate in other ways (bjs, handjobs etc). This is HER condition and you BOTH need to adjust things if you want to make it work long term. If she's not helping you, move on.