Hey guys!
First, I must confess: I am rather new to this so bare this in mind...
I've been dating this girl for a month now, but the situation is bizarre.
When I picked her up, I went through all the stages, though I forgot and skipped qualification and went strong into rapport. We are dating, but it seems as if I am still picking her up. The only IOIs I get are initiation of conversation and the occasional (once) head on shoulder, smile, laughter.
I have kissed her and she isn't reluctant, but it feels emotionless and cold, as if there is no attraction. She rarely calls or sends any texts, but when we talk, it's only when I initiate it.
I figure, I messed up the pick up and went too early into rapport, so I need to come back strong on attraction and qualification to shock things in the correct order. I tried to qualify her the other day, and she qualified me back. I had some unplanned pre-selection, but I don't see a reaction. And yet she goes on dates...I don't understand it.
Maybe she isn't sure or something...
Anyhow, please help me figure it out. My set of skills is limited...
By the way, I don't know if it's important, she is 4 years older than me.

Thanks so much in advance!

I can see two possibilities:

1) She might be the kind of girl who doesn't openly respond to game. I'm sure you know the type: meek, intelligent, emotionally distant, introverted. Just be persistent. For her that might be the ultimate turn on.

2) She's just using you physically for some deeper internal conflict like getting over an ex.

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