Hey guys. I am new here and I am having a problem with my girlfriend could really use some help and advice. The background: I'm 19 years and in my first semester of my second year of university. I was a shy, unconfident geek in high school but the summer after I graduated high school I discovered PUA which helped my gain confidence, be social and come out of my shell. I made tons of new friends and lost my virginity and gamed and went out with lots of girls. This all continued when I started university in the fall. I also got my first girlfriend, a girl who goes to the same school as me. Next week it will be our 1 year anniversary. Everything has been going great, but recently a problem came up which brings me to why I need help.

When we met my girlfriend had hair down to her collar bones. In the past year it has gotten longer and is down past her boobs. When she first added me on Facebook and I looked at her pictures in some she had short hair, like really short, like the actress from Harry Potter after she cut it. On one of our first dates I asked her about it and she told me that twice, when she was 15 and 17 she cut her hair off and donated it to make wigs for people with cancer. She also said she planning on doing it again in about a year. She told me the same thing when we became exclusive. At the time I didn't care because she was a HB who was interested in me and over this past year I have fallen in love with her and can see a long term future with her. However recently she mentioned that the time has come for her to cut her hair again and the appointment is scheduled for next week.

The thing is I do NOT want her to cut her hair. I don't like short hair on girls and to me it is not feminine. I have looked at the pictures of her with short hair and she does not look nearly as good as she does with long hair. When she brought up cutting it I commented on how much long hair suited her and how much I like it. She replied that I knew going in she was going to do this and she warned me a bunch of times before we were exclusive. If I'm not attracted to her it will affect our relationships negatively. Guys, I need help here. I want her to listen to me but I think if I just forbid her she will rebel even harder. I know women like men to lead and I always act alpha around her and I want her to take my feelings into account but I have no clue how to make her see that cutting it would be a mistake. This may seem like I'm being stupid but this is a big problem for me. I need to know what I can say or do to stop her from doing this. Thanks guys!

Sorry dude, she's gonna do it. I've learned that girls have their own idea of what's attractive and there's no point arguing against it or trying to change their view. Telling her you won't be as attracted to her as much is just going to get you into the "you don't love me for me" trap. Break up now if you want, it's your choice but I doubt there is anything you can do to change her mind.

Are you kidding? Your advice is break up over this hair thing? They seem to have a good relationship.

Listen, OP. If she's keen on cutting her hair, let her do it. Not a peep out of you. Then start light flirting with long haired chicks. Trust me, she'll get the message and she won't cut her hair again.

Not saying TO break up, just if this is a big deal that he thinks he can't get over when she does it, best to break up now "if he wants." OP is obviously young and this is a sign of that. I hate short hair but will be the first to admit that if your girl is beautiful in the face, has a nice body, then cutting her hair shouldnt decrease your attraction too much, especially if you really love her. If you love her, you can tolerate a different look for a year if you really plan to spend your future together. If your girl needs long hair to attract you, she can't be that cute and you don't see her as naturally beautiful. Hence, if you think this will be a big issue when she does it, the relationship is already not based on love and you should leave.

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Listen, OP. If she's keen on cutting her hair, let her do it. Not a peep out of you. Then start light flirting with long haired chicks. Trust me, she'll get the message and she won't cut her hair again.[/quote]

This will probably get you dumped. If you have a different reaction to her after she cuts her hair, it's going to make her see that you care about her physical features more than anything. Quickest way to make a girl start questioning your rs and dump you.

I didn't read and can't believe this is an actual thread.

"If you got fat i'd dump you." There. That's all you need to say with that bullshit. Just stand your ground, tell her you wouldn't date her if she was fat so if she starts shaving her head trying to look like Myle Cyrus chances are you're not going to stick around.

Seriously, AFC shit to bow down and back out of the "You don't love me for me" shit talk.

Lol. Some terrible advice. I hope you're just trying to mess with the OP. All women in relationships want to feel like you love them for reasons other than their looks and that their personality is what keeps you. It may sound alpha to drop a line like this, but it's just going to put doubts into your gfs head about what matters to you and get ready for negative feelings from her and a drop in emotion. Heck, flirt with other women if she cuts her hair or drop an ultimatum as the other posters have said, but get ready to see your rs suffer and alot of problems soon.

It does not "seem" like you are bing stupid, you are being stupid. At the very least your astute enough to realize this is a big problem, but not the one you think. You should do nothing to stop her from doing what she wants, that is controlling and beta. What you should do is reassess how good of boyfriend you are to this woman, and if you love HER or if you just having a GIRL.
If you loved her for who she was then her more than noble actions and passions would be more of connecting thread in this relationship than her hair. Stop acting like a prom girl at the salon and be happy with the fact you have a great girl who is willing to sacrifice her own vanity for the good of others, the least you can do is support her.

Here is a challenge for you: In the time it takes for her hair to grow back to where you are happy with it, go deal with your inner game and control issues.