Dear Forum members,

It has been a while that I last posted and I hadn’t planned on writing again for a while - trying to establish a stable and confident mindset where I can make decisions on my own, but I am so torn on this girl that I could use your advice.

I left my country where I study University to go on exchange after being with a girl in the summer that had a boyfriend; things got heated, so I left on exchange as planned. I didn’t want to find a girlfriend, but as often these things go it’s when you don’t want a girl you find a girl.

So the first week arriving at my exchange destination, I party with my new friends and meet this Latin American/European chick (not saying nationalities), but half and half. She is super cute, natural looking, modelled before, very cute, great dancer, at the time I was thinking if I got this girls number it was jackpot.

Fast-forward 3 months, we have been dating for 2 and a half months, and at the beginning she was super distant, hard to read, would reply to texts not often, and I was often thinking of ways to get closer to this girl that I really liked.

All of a sudden, things sped up, I took her to meet my home country close by where she met my chill parents, went great, then after she started getting a bit clingy, always wanting to go out with me when I was with my friends, wanting to meet up. The language barrier started getting annoying (English isn’t her first language), I ended up paying for a lot of things (not much money in her family) and she is SO INTENSE, and SO god fucking damn forward to anyone, like with all my friends I don’t know if it’s fake or something but she craves the attention and I can tell she loves to be center of attention in ANY situation. So I distanced myself.

A week later she says she is falling in love with me, then I asked what she wants with me, she said “to be your partner until you die”, we then had sex and she said “I want to eat you up, but then I would kill myself because then you wouldn’t be alive”. – Bit creeped out or is that normal? I get irritated by her so much because she exhausts me as she is super intense and just a bit immature, BUT she is so caring, very pretty, like me in some ways (but I am more mature and way more chill), she is like constantly 100% intense and forward. When I go out with friends, I like to dance with my friends, flirt around, when she asks to join … I’m like ahhh fuckk because she is with me 100% of the time when I’m out and I can’t be with my friends or dancing with other people.
Basically, ive been thinking of breaking up with her, but then again, doesn’t anyone want what I have? A super hot girl who is cool, friendly, trustworthy, that you can build a future with?

Im just asking because – I am wondering, and very sure that if I break up with her I would probably regret it. I just went out for a walk to town to get some food and she was in town with her friends partying (whom I haven’t met), I walked to town with a girl (who is a friend), and she was begging me to come to the club with her to meet her friends and I didn’t. I texted her and we met up (with my friend there as well who is a girl), and now she is super cold towards me after we said bye (I didn’t meet her friends, and I didn’t even go in the club), and I left with the girl walking back home. I feel like a dick, but I told her I wasn’t out tonight. I said have a good night, she replied “you too” when normally she writes an essay… maybe she has realized all what she is doing and is now playing hard to get? (by the way the friend who is a girl I was with has a boyfriend).

Opinions? Would I be dumb to end it with this girl? Or do I run far far away …

Boys?

She wants you to be in a committed serious relationship, And it sounds like you want to be either single or in an casual relationship where she doesnt mind spending time apart. From what i read there, she wants you to be her lap dog. For you to do what she wants, party with her when she wants you to, and if she doesnt want you with her, to stay at home alone.

From my experience, This is a destructive force that you dont need to deal with. She may be the most beautiful woman, who you claim she is cool, friendly and even trustworthy. But she sounds controlling to me. Having a relationship with someone is two peoples lives working side by side, not two peoples lives become one mangled hybrid. If i was in your shoes, i would simply tell her that you do need your time with the boys, you need to be able to have alone time. And if she disagrees, why would you want that in your life?

So she is pretty, and you might think that you wont get someone as awesome as her again, But then again, chances are you can get someone a hell of alot better. Trust me, i have done it.

TL;DR.
Lay down what you want, where you think this 'relationship'(dictatorship) is failing and if she disagrees, put your nikes on and run like buggery. ( especially after all that "til i die " shit)

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