Dated this girl about 5-6 months. Sex was great, this was her first "real" relationship, but the combination of some distance (only 45 min, but still made it somewhat difficult to hang out) and fighting over it was wearing us both down. Around this time she'd also lost her job and found out her roommate/best friend was moving out of the country, so she clearly was stressed. She was the one that brought it up first, but I had been thinking the same thing for a while, so I agreed w/ her and basically just left after a few minutes discussing things. We were even being joking/playful as I walked to my car. She did say we didn't have to make a decision now since we both had busy schedules for the upcoming week, but in my head this was a break-up.

I went complete no contact for about 10 days, then sent her a text on Halloween just saying I hope she's doing well, having good luck finding a job, etc...and didn't expect any kind of response. She responded almost instantly, and we ended up texting back and forth all day like old times. I generally took a couple hours between responses and she'd text back almost immediately. We texted some more through the weekend, and I decided to cut it off at a high point when I realized I didn't know wtf I was trying to achieve out of all this.

She's randomly been sending me a picture text or two, some article she read about how to make my beard not itch, and just other bullshit every few days. I've usually just responded w/ a short, playful message and then gone back to no contact. I haven't initiated at all since that first text. I do miss her, but I have been dating (actually have one tonight) which has helped a lot. I really think we could work at some point down the road, but there's no way I'm just going to wait around obviously and I'm not sure how to handle things for the time being.

Ultimately I would love to be FWBs since I'm honestly too busy for a GF right now (have a new business starting up), but I admit it would bother me if she was dating someone else and vice versa. What would you guys do? If I did want to hang out at some point, how would you approach it?

Much thanks in advance!

Whenever a girl gives you other reasons for breaking up, it's all pure lies.

45 minutes away - if one of you has a car this is not an issue at all. 2-3 hours, maybe, but not 45 mins.

Her friend leaving - If anything this would make her need you even more, because now her BFF is gone, she has no emotional support.

Stress - This is self-imposed and not your fault.

All 3 of the above were excuses because she didn't have the balls to say "I've lost attraction for you / You don't make me cum hard enough". Her attraction increased when you said "ok cool. Take care, all the best". You retained your dignity and didn't care she was leaving. This increased her attraction again. Then the silence from you made her worried you'd already found someone else before she did and she began to miss you.

My advice is bang some other chicks. Next you need to work out if you are actually truly over her. Once you're over her, invite her over for casual drinks / catch-up. If she shows up all dolled up and pretty, it's on. Learn some new positions and techniques before she comes over. Bang her, then IF SHE ASKS, suggest you date casually (meaning you are free to bang other birds and keep her on as an FB). If she gets needy or demands exclusivity, only do it on your terms. If she doesn't submit to your terms, squeeze as much sex out of the "casually dating" period as you can before you amicably LJBF her. If she's not a psycho jealous type, and she is a good unvengeful person, remain friends with her, but keep your distance while the wounds are fresh. You may be able to pivot / wing off her later to meet new girls. Do the gentlemanly Casanova thing and palm her off onto decent guys you know if she is looking for a date. She will love how mature you are if you can pull this off without getting jealous.