Guys, please stay with me from beginning to the end, your help is needed and appreciated

So, I already wrote some months ago here that I found out my GF of whom I thought is the best, most honest and other AFC crap, would never cheat or lie to me. I concluded that if she lied, she also cheated so I broke up with her. She explained the lying as she did not want to hurt me and make me suspicious (she met her ex behind my back and lied about it) and destroy a beautiful relationship with me over something I would not understand. Well, bit by bit, I put the puzzle together and realized that the heart breaking story of her meeting her ex who was devastated by the break up actually also included her sleeping with him during that time. To make it even worse first she lied that he only slept at her couch crying because he was devastated and she felt sorry, then they only made out, eventually after few months of our break up I cornered her to confess she had sex with him and met him also another time when we were deep into our relationship and were as exclusive as we could be.

So, even though I was crazily in love with her and suffered quite a lot (she is quite good looking and "talented"), as soon as I learned of her lying I left her without any drama and acting as cool as possible. She continued contacting me crying and begging for some months. However, the fact that only when she was completely cornered she confessed me the whole truth of sleeping with her ex, and even then not saying all the things that actually happened made me quite angry. Since we broke up when I checked her phone and realized she met her ex during the period she said she could not meet me because she was busy (please spare me the bs of not having to check her stuff; suspicion+check=me discovering she is a big bitch) I learned some very interesting stuff. She lied even to her ex boyfriend blaming him for the break up. The reasons being quite Oscar winning, - she confessed to him she liked a guy (me) but did not have anything physical with him just platonic meetings (awful bullshit, we were sexing for a month then, few times a day). As I learned along the way, the guy was really a poor nerd without to much experience and worshiped her as a goddess "half-virgin" girl she presented herself to be. Unfortunately this continued up to today (she feeds him with this stuff) and the poor bastard lives in the illusion that if he was less "insecure" and jealous he could still have her.

So my, dilemma is should I send an email to this guy, just telling him the simple truth and letting him do what ever he wants with this information or should I just let her continue destroying him? The problem is that she is really good at selling herself as an innocent Muslim girl who just seeks true love. I am hoping that by contacting the guy (against whom I really do not have anything) I might as well finally find out the whole truth about her and finally find my peace.

Thanks in advance for your input guys, I really appreciate.

You broke up with her and for good reason. Clearly you still care about her but why send the other dude a message, if he finds out great, if not great...it shouldn't have any impact on your life one way or the other. Move on and just let her go, sounds like its for the best.

If I were you, I would definitely let that guy know. The bitch cheated on you, and she lied to both you and him. She is a pathological fucking liar. She used both of you, and I think you should definitely make things right for both you and the guy, and let her get what she deserves. Btw, just out of curiousity, what country are you in?

thanks man, I am on this line as well.

Regarding the country it is not Saudi Arabia, Europe calling

Nearly all women are like this.

I'd encourage you to just move on and get on with your life. If he finds out, he'll find out. If not, he won't. If you break up with her and then ruin her other relationship, she'll probably try to get revenge on you in some way in the future.

As they say, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."

But seriously, most women are pathological liars when it comes to stuff like this. It's how they get what they want, it's feminine power that only comes off as "lying and being a bitch" to men, who hold a very different idea of truth, honor and loyalty than women do.

Those concepts just don't exist to them, because doing what this girl did serves them far better. That should be clear given what happened when you found out the truth.

Just move on, man. Karma's real.

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You are the man, and she's destroying that image of you.
I'd next her immediately and game other girls.

For her ex, just leave it to him. He'll eventually find out sooner or later and it won't matter, he'll live.

thanks guys, all you are saying is true.

The thing is that this girl was so innocent looking and so good in manipulations that even when you know she is lying it is so hard not to believe her. That is why when there were all the signs present in the beginning of our relationship that she is not as good and innocent as she seemed I stayed and developed strong feelings, blamed my intuition for delivering false info to my brain. So all you reading this, bail out from a girl as soon as you start suspecting or catching her in a lie because it is always just a tip of the iceberg

She went so far that even after I broke up she continued contacting me and telling me bullshit like "it is so sad that people break up because lack of trust", and told this line to our common friends who asked her why did it happen. I don't even think that she actually wanted to get back with me, she was just gaming on. Even though I would pick up maybe once in 10 days she managed to put a worm in my head where I almost started trusting that her ex only slept for one night at her place and left devastated the other morning without them having anything. However, one day out of a sudden some random details came to my head which made me conclude that it was even worse. She kind of had two boyfriends all the time.

However she just kept lying first saying things like we just kissed then, we just kissed in bed without sex (yeah right ) and only when completely cornered (probably by fear that I will let others know what is she like) she confirmed absolutely all my suspicions. The bitch slept with another guy just some days before meeting my parents! Unfortunately I am still sure that she did not share everything with me

The reason why I am writing this is that after I heard it from her mouth I was pissed and all but having a clear confirmation of my suspicions helped me to relax and feel better, after all it was not "my insecurities talking" . And this is why I am playing with the though of contacting her ex who still thinks she broke up with him because he was jealous and possessive. It is really not to revenge to her but to just get to the bottom which would help to put her of the pedestal and also recognize shady female behavior in the future.


thoughts?

I'd let the ex work it out on his own.

If there is an ex on the scene, you should run for the hills. It's always more than friendship, they always bullshit you.