| I've been in a LTR for 1 year with my gf and recently I'm beginning to notice a betaization creeping in.
1) We had the first discussion ever. She was upset and I kept cool and made my point of view clear to my gf. She finally apologized for her bad behaviour, hugged me and told me she feels very bad and I said it's okay, but next time she should bring up such topics in an adult way and not by getting upset like that.
- So what do you think about the way I handled this situation?
2) I noticed a couple of times that she finished my sentence before I could finish it, in a "blabla, keep on talking" way, but most of the time I wasn't going to say the same thing like her.
- I found this pretty disrespecting, but I didn't react to it. How should I behave in such a situation?
3) Now it seems she doesn't want sex as much as I do. So I start kissing her and slowly moving to her ears and neck, and then she starts giggling, saying it tickles too much, so she can't chill. I could break these "LMR's" by just walking away and watching TV, or playing with my cell etc. Then I'll start kissing her again, this time longer while touching her face, neck,... until I broke these LMR's.
Recently she doesn't want sex at all, she said she is stressed out because of the examinations at college, so she can't relax in order to have sex.
- I know how much she loves sex, because we have good sex, even after all these LMR's I have to break.
I guess I became kinda predictable and needy?
I was reading PUA and Alpha material before that LTR and I know I became comfortable in our LTR.
So what can I do to get rid of a betaization?
Looking forward for any advices.
greetz
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