I have a problem. Long story short, I fell in love with my best friend. She is in love with my other best friend and he is in love with her. Although she would rather be with me, she doesn’t feel ‘attracted’ to me. My other friend and I are supposedly similar in looks but he is a bigger guy than me. They have been kind of together for the past year but he never knew what he wanted and cheated on her several times. And to make it even better, he is my sister’s ex. She says she loves me more than she’s ever loved a friend before but isn’t ‘in love’ with me. We have tried being more than friends and kissed etc but it felt forced and unnatural. She thinks there is still a chance but the problem is she does not desire me. We have the most amazing friendship and she wants more but can’t help the way she feels. She essentially has to choose me or my other friend. Whoever is not with her can’t really be friends with her because we are all too close. I am going overseas in a couple of months and she wants to come with me but I said she can’t come if we’re not together. Part of me wants to move on but she is one of two girls I’ve ever liked in 23 years. Any advice would be great.

She is one of 2 girls you've ever liked, in a whopping 23 years of life.

My advice, go on your trip. Don't take her with. Have a good time, experience some things, meet some new people, and see how you feel about her when you get back home. What's the rush with her? She isn't going anywhere.

You're young, life some life, experience some things. You'll be glad you did.

Go on your trip.

NEXT her for your own sanity.

She already made her choice dude.

You'll find more girls you like, some of whom will definitely reciprocate those feelings.

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