Hey guys, this is my first post, so let me introduce first.

I am in the mid-twentys, average looking and interested in pickup for an year now. Pickup got my attention because of Neil Strauss book the game, but i've also read other pickup books. I come from germany and i am a student. Without pickup i don't really had problems with girls, there was always a girl, that interested me and most time it came to more.

Now the reason why i'm posting this:

7 years ago, i had a girlfriend, who i would call my "big love", she also calls me like that. We were together, but in the end it ended in a mess of bullshit. I had my first sex with her and she had also her first sex with me. I think the reason was, that we were both too young and too dumb. I made all of the mistakes an afc can make and had a hell of an oneitis. But i got over her, got a new girlfriend and so on. In this 7 years we had not very often contact. But when we had contact most of the time she started it. She was now living in an other city with her dad.

Last year the contact got more, i had 2 fuckbuddies and she had a boyfriend. After a few weeks emotions and feelings came into it. We had sex and after a time she left her boyfriend. I never told her to do that, i used monkeyboys boyfriend destroyer. I think she left him for me. But they are friends now and he loves her anyway.

Then a year or so it went pretty good, she invested, i invested and she talked about getting back to my city, which here mother also lives in. I never told her to do so, i just told her things like "we'll see, what time brings".

Then she flew into the united states to make vacations and i realised that she invested less. But i don't talked with her about that, just thought it was because of alle the things she sees in the usa and so on.

After her stay in the USA we had an date. But it never came to this date, because she flaked. Started a freeze-out and in the evening of the same day she wrote me an short message, that she can't love in the moment. Many things happened and she wanted to say it to me personal, but she can't. I responded nothing and freezed her. She started a management-traineeship in her city, so she can't come to my city. After 2 weeks she called, and told me, that she didn't cheat on me or something, it was all real, it was me she thought about most of the time the past year and stuff like that. Just told her, that actions speak louder than words and she can say whatever she wants it doesn't change anything.

A few days ago she wrote me, that she misses me. I responded that i miss her too, but she had made an decision. She said, that she regrets her decision and will do so in the next years. She told me that her mom has cancer, so it could be true what she says. Also her dad, who works pretty hard is in a hospital because he had feelings of faintness. She has a really bad relationship to her mother and wanted to get over that, when she heard of the cancer. But her mother acts like nothing happened and treats her like shit. She tells me that she doesn't want me to join her problems and leaves me because she loves me, she doesnt want to hurt me.

My question:
She flaked and treated me bad. On one site i think it's good to forget her, because of that. I don't want to play her idiot. But on the other hand she calls me and tells me she feels bad and is crying and all of this stuff. I feel like a really bad person, if i don't help her in some ways. I know, that when i help her, it could destroy anything that is good for a relationship with her. On the other hand, i think that she needs me, because i was always the person who got her to positive feelings and made her forget bullshit.

Would u shit on your feelings and fuck on everything, which you want from a person, to help her if she really needs you? Even if it means, you could lost a person who you really love?

Sorry if this is the wrong sub-thread, my english isn't the best