Dear PUA community,
I have used all your knowledge for some time now and in the meantime have found myself a girlfriend. I'm now a sophomore in college, she's one year older than me. She is really cute and all and we've been dating for 6 months (3 months long distance)... She is very much into her work and we are both virgins. We are at that awkward phase where we both sort of see each other and take things slow. However, this isn't working for me. I feel like this is so much hard work and she isn't putting her 100% into this relationship. I really just want to dance and go to parties, but she's not into that at all. The problem is we are both in a small college so even if I'll be seeing her, it'll be really awkward. Also people would talk. I haven't talked to her about any of this but we just haven't been hanging out like I want. I am also extremely attracted to so many beautiful girls on campus and feel like if I want, I can make something happen with them but then I dunno if I should end this relationship or not. On one hand, I feel like I should but then theres a part of me that doesn't want to leave her. I am also really sexually frustrated because I'm in college and I still haven't fucking gotten laid yet. I have grinded and made out with a lot of girls but I never have the courage to bring them back to my room or anything like that and even if I do, I freeze up and I cant make the first move, fearing rejection. I am getting slowly and slowly annoyed to the point where i'm just smoking weed and jerking off and I cant take it anymore. I need some kind of a release, I just hope I don't give up, because I'm not that kind of a person. I should be focusing on school but thats tough too. I think I'm good at flirting and know most PUA knowledge, but when I get on the field I cant really pull everything off correctly. Any advice right now would be helpful. I don't wanna cheat on my girl either, though and I feel like I'm going through an existential crisis. Help me out?
'Preciate it.

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Ohmmega

First off I can understand your frustration with the getting laid thing ( I was about your age when I lost my virginity) and just know that others in this community have gone through what you are going through as well. You are far from alone.

1- With the girlfriend if you are not getting steady sex you have to start to evaluate what else she is bringing to the table. This may sound shallow to many people, but as an Alpha man you deserve the best. And the best means you are receiving everything you want in a relationship... Sex, personality, she has goals, dreams, helps you become a better person, loving, caring...ect. If she is lacking in a lot of these categories i would NEXT her. Why waste your time.

2- You are young and you have the right to be curious about other girls and potential relationships. However you should honestly set a GOAL for yourself when it comes to pick up. Ask yourself-- What do I want out of this? Do I want a relationship right now? If so what kind of relationship? ect... but be clear in what YOU are looking for and stick to it. This in itself is Alpha.

3- In order to change your life you have to CHANGE YOUR LIFE! stop doing the things you have always done in the past... like not escalating to sex... not bringing a girl back to your room and isolating...ect. STOP THAT. Now its going to be hard to make the change at first... so take some baby steps if needed.
**The best way to change your bad habits is to STOP smoking weed and JERKING off. Read on Sex-transmutation... its powers are truly amazing. Just google it. Also, set a goal that you wont Jerk it until you get laid. And STICK TO IT. Trust me in about a week or two your going to be getting laid... just out of all the built up sexual tension.

4- Make a decision and commit to it. Be disciplined with your emotions and cpntine to keep STUDYING PUA game/material in order to improve your results.

5- APPLY WHAT YOU ARE LEARNING! Just like in school.... you have TESTS/EXAMS to make you apply all the bullshit readings and lectures. Same thing her... GO OUT A LOT. Sarge NEW GIRLS. APPLY the material/vidoes youv been watching on PUA formems. Get the reference experience and you will see your results start to improve. APPLY APPLY APPLY

--GL
Duke

You are right, as a student you are learning, of course, fall in love is your right, but you want to love the girl for you, you can't because you love will hurt her, maybe you at this moment is very happy, but you the next second will be a lot of responsibility, you are the best love inspires you to study, and not let you down.

Actually, this doesn't sound like a phase at all. It sounds like she's not really sure of you, while you just want to get laid. This problem has been created because you haven't had sex yet. Never (well, when you've passed 16 or so) start an exclusive relationship when you haven't had sex. The solution is simple once you realize that you are the most important person in your life. You talk to her about this problem, tell her what you want and find out what she wants. If what you want corresponds, great. If what you want diverges too much, you break it off.
Not important as long as you don't embarrass yourself, which you won't if you're simply honest with her.

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