Hey there everyone, me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about four months, six months before that she was in a long distance relationship with a guy who was three years older. About every week he sends letters, flowers and gifts to her while she is at university. She still has feelings for him and every time he sends things she thinks she doesn't need a relationship at all. I really need to know how to turn her feelings against him. To turn all these little gifts as an annoyance. If you need more information you can catch me on SPAM primetimepeter.

Please help

I think in this situation you have to put your foot down. If I'm in a relationship I refuse to have ex's in our lives. You are still in the early stages, so she will be testing you in all kinds of ways. They tend to do this to qualify you and if you are going to let an ex steal her back, then you are simply not man enough and fail the test... as harsh and unfortunate as it may be. You need t make it clear what you will put up with and what you wont... or she will walk all over you.

Display the fact that you will walk away if she crosses the line, she will either submit or fight you on it (Most cases fight, using emotional ploys and what not)...but you have to be willing to do or she will see you are full of shit and take advantage of it

If getting laid is a concern, go through all this stuff while getting girls interested on the side, that way you have something lined up and don't get dropped into a dry spell, which may cause you to cave, give her all the power. This is also useful for showing that you are capable of leaving and finding someone new on a moments notice... And if you get caught up, just say they are friends... Chicks do it all the time.

Basically Step up and put your foot down. Be willing to take what is yours and walk away if need be... this dude is not playing by the rules and swooping on your chick. There is a valuable lesson to be learned.

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that there is the truth.

i was on the receiving end of this shit a week ago. girl(19) moves to my city after her highschool boyfriend (24) breaks up with her. im 29. the minute i got needy, she dropped me for another fuckbuddy. reseal that this situation can happen to you and she could leave you for some other lad with a bit of a wild side while pondering on that previous fucked up relationship. also depends how long they been dating for. if it was good towards the end, and they have been dating for longer than you two have, that feel will always be there. fucked but this is how girls roll. not fun being in the receiving end of a rebound. like the above poster said, id straight up game other girls ASAP and keep em strung if this shit fails

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Something for me dont add up.

How do you know she still has feelings for him?

Did she tell you about the gifts or did you discover?

What her view in all that?

Did she talk to the guy telling him to stop with the gifts?

My first view on this, she is not respecting you or the relantioship ,if she is receiving gifts from him while dating you,that in my book cant handle , and this clearly is bothering you or you wouldnt be here ranting about the gifts.

What happens when he comes to visit her?

Tell her how uncomfortable this situation makes you be and if she still has feelings for another dude and likes the attention that her ex is giving, perhaps you should end this, telling that she has to know what she wants him or you she cant have both. If she wants to start a new life with you then she has to give a big jump from her previously relantionship and letting go of the past.

She has to make decision.

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