| Same here. I don't know about friends, I suppose she brags about guys from real life with them, but in front of me she'll throw a celebrity here and there. And it was OK few times initially, but when its a "normal" habbit, I'm not sure what they expect us to say or do. She'll deny its about looks, say she doesn't know them so she wouldn't date them in real life, and convience you its no big deal, but come on...
Last time, after we had sex for fucks sake, she bragged about some guy from TV show on channel, "smart and hot", and how she and her friend were "depressed" because he is gay acting straight, "how can this guy be gay?", yadda yadda. And then self-consciously said: "I know I should keep this with my girl friend, but...". Then I had it enough, I didn't give a fuck and told her that I'm not going to do that anymore, respond like some kind of pussy who takes it in the ass. It wasn't angry, I just expressed myself logically. At this point she goes: "I didn't mean it like that, that's not the point", blah blah..
I always joked about it, examples:
"Yes, dream on"
"But he would rather date me than you probably"
"I can try and bring you his number"
or something along the lines which caused her to ask me if I have a man crush.
etc.
But habits won't die, and its starting to annoy me. If I'm not in the mood, she'll turn it all around and try to point women I might find "hot".
Keep in mind, its normal to them, it won't change. One thing you have to be careful about, though: just because its celebrities, doesn't mean they have eyes only for them. Remember the type of guys she finds "hot". They must be all over the street. She'll keep her mouth shut about this, but watch if your girlfriend eye-gazes around. To this day I am not able to recognize that look, and she was eye-distracted by "surroundings" sometimes, but I don't have enough evidence what was this about. Its hard to make justifiable accusation.
Once I joked about all women are cheaters, to which she responded "I'm not going to meet Johnny Deep, so no worries", and she has a thing for him. Well, just because Johnny is celebrity, unavailable to her in this space-time continuum, it is still offensive. When a guy is completely unreachable does it make it alright to hint she wants him?
Its more of a problem of me and you finding such girlfriends, 'cause not all women do that in front of their partners over and over again. Why would they?
This should be re-evaluated, if done often, because this IS comparison, they are drooling, and literally pointing at other men objectively hotter than you. If a man does this, he is considered pig, womanizer, disrespectful, lacking control, but if a girl does it, "yeah, its okay", its normal, its a test of confidence, its joke, its "different standards in real life".
Really?
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