Is she planning to cheat? I'll try to summarize quickly. Been dating for 5 months, her birthday is coming and planning to celebrate with vacation. One week ago, here's the summary conversation when I picked her up:

Her: So this creepy resident physician at the hospital (she works as an RN) asked for my number and I had to give it to him cause it was so awkward. He's been texting me asking to hangout.

Me: Sounds like a cool guy, when's your date?

Her: Next week...just kidding. Does it bother you if I hang out with other guys?

Me: Nah (I changed the subject at this point)

She jokes and is sarcastic, so I assumed this wasn't anything serious. However, she seemed to act different that night and it was first time since we've been together that we didn't have sex. Even though, I tried to initiate several times.

That night I checked her phone (I know shouldn't have; I debated for a while but finally did), I found the conversation between her and the physician. The texts ended with her saying "she might be free next week..."

I tried to focus on other things, however today we had a FB Conversation:

(Joking mostly entire conversation)
Me: Well than I'm gonna file for divorce and take your goldfish :p

Her: Fine with me I have a date this week

(however at this point I started thinking about the text again)
Me: Do you really? Thought your seeing me this Thursday?

Her: Yup and might have cancel on you lol

Her: (few minutes later) jk I don't go on dates what time works for you Thursday?

The issue: Her birthday and the fact that I mentioned that I would pay for the vacation (she got me something expensive for mine, so it only seemed fair). I'll have to book it by next week, but I don't feel like spending $1,500 on her after seeing that text message. In addition, If it's not this guy now, it will probably be someone else after the vacation.

However, I'm also confused about why she would mention the date in a joking matter twice now? It's like she wants me to talk about it? Should I have simply said that it does bother me? I guess I will see how she acts this Thursday? Should I bring the date issue up and talk with her about it?

I'm not sure what she is thinking, but it doens't sound like she is going to cheat, why bring up the number and date if she was planning on it? But I feel you handled the whole situation well. I once had a serious girlfriend that told me her neighbor asked her out and that he was "kinda cute and really successful" I told her to have a great time and come over once she was done getting a free dinner. She never went and after I figured out it was just for attention. Sounds like your case but no one can know for sure. Your the one in the situation and you know what feels right.

depends a lot on your relationship, and how she is like..

I know from personal experience that it would in my situation be best to bring up, just get it out of the world...
besides you shouldn't be in a relationship where you can't talk things trough, and if she thinks you should give her more distance than you can manage, then maybe you shouldn't be together...

However hopefully she will react well to the conversation -keeps us updated!

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Sounds like she wants to hang out with him. I don't care if this guy works with her, any girl can tell a guy that she can't hang out or give her number because her bf would be uncomfortable with that. Don't fool yourself, any time a girl in a relationship gives a guy her number and entertains hanging out, she has intentions to. I disagree with havegun as you found the text. It sounds like she wants a reaction from you, but she herself is texting him behind your back and giving her number out. If she wanted attention, a simple "this RN asked for my number" would be enough. Texting him and giving her number is something else. And resisting sex sounds like she's think about the dude. Personally, it would have been over if it were me and she told me she couldnt tell a guy no at the number. Either she is 15 and hasn't learn how easy it is to respectfully say, I can't I have a bf or she's looking for something else.
Disclaimer to all men: Never, ever ever spend or plan to spend $1500 on a 5 month relationship's bday. I don't care if you're Zuckerberg himself, if you need to buy a chick something expensive to make her happy she's not worth it.If she bought you something expensive, fine, but don't get sucked into her frame and how SHE sets the gift policy.

Well, what was the general context of her messages with the guy? Just because she said "I might be free next week" at the end of her conversation doesn't mean she's planning on fucking the guy. Was she talking about work with him? What was he saying to her about meeting up? Was it purely innocent or what?

All i'm saying is it seemed like she was testing you when she brought up some guy getting her number. It's hitting near the 6month mark and it's at that mark where things settle down and start to get boring so shit gets stirred or you just know wif it's not going to work out between you two. I'm calling it out as a test.

Just bring it up with her before her birthday. Fuck man, who cares if she spent a lot on you for your birthday if she's cheating on you/going to cheat on you? Just talk to her about it and say something like a few nights ago her phone lit up when she was asleep and you see the messages. Just say you want to know what's going on and why you would tell a guy who's clearly interested in you that you can meet up next week.

On the flip side maybe she feels guilty about the whole thing and she has some attraction to this guy. Her way of lowering her guilt is by telling you what's going on and being truthful about it so that if she does spend time with him and something does happen she can feel it wasn't entirely her fault.

Either way you need to talk to her and address it. No point in arguments. If she doesn't answer your questions or tries to flip it on you freeze her out and bail on her for her birthday or something.

I actually left out a key piece of info from my story and just remembered after reading neo's post. After me and my girl broke up guess who was her rebound guy..."cute successful guy" so she clearly had some sort of feeling for him. So I would actually side with Neo here and say she is thinking about him. I still think she is yours to lose though. GOOD LUCK

That.

I can identify with that from the opposite end. I'm currently banging chicks with boyfriends/husbands who gave me their numbers and rode along my sexting, and when their boyfriends or husbands were fetching them at work when I'm sarging around, the girls give them the cold shoulder when the dudes were acting sweet and romantic.

Neo is spot on accurate.

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