okay so i guess this thing happens to almost every guy in a relationship...
I want sex more than my girlfriend, she wants sex maybe 3 times a week, at the max, on very rare occasions she gets in the mood even more... we have been dating for 11 months now, and we are really into each other..
I can turn her on and such, i can fuck her good, she will come every time, and we both feel that this is the best sex we have ever had, no question here.. But sometimes i want to have sex with her and she will turn me down, "i am to tired" "not right now, lets do it later", stuff like that is something she will usually say, and if she is stressed by school that will slow down her sexdrive...

Every time she turns me down, i just feel so insecure, like i get this weird feeling. its like i am feel soo weak, like those guys you see in tv where they wife just dominate the relationship completely, and at the same time i feel so embarrassed that i cant even make my girlfriend have sex with me... and i feel like a retard too... and that is just mentioning some of the frustrating feelings it brings up in me..

I can't really find out wether the thing is to get her to have more sex with me, somehow anyway... or to learn to control my thoughts and feelings when she doesn't want too..

Lately i have found out that if we for some reason can't have sex, then she is more easily turned on... like if i need to leave in 10 minutes, if her dad is home, if we are at a party...

at the same time, if i bring up the fact that my intention is to have sex (when i am about to turn her on), she will not be likely to want sex... so if i get her turned on before her finding out we are gonna have sex, then she will want sex... (hope that made some kind of sence..)

so ... any advice??

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