Hey guys,

I've been dating a great girl for the past six months. As of late, we've been spending more and more time together to the point that outside of classes, we pretty much live together. She sleeps at my place literally every night or I at hers, and we cook and eat and study together. We've also been talking about moving in with each other after another 6 months.

I've been noticing that she rarely "makes the move" to start hooking up. It is almost always me who initiates it. I've literally said to her "I hate that I'm always the one initiating sex" and that helped for a day but didn't help in the long run.

I've also noticed we have a lot less passion, laughing, etc. She's less passionate and seems to be less into me than before but she's still sweet and we clearly still love each other a lot. Overall, the relationship is great, just lately I've been feeling less passion and less initiation of sex on her part.

In my own theory, I think we're just spending too much time together. Girls want what they can't have, and I'm giving her pretty much all my time and focus and attention. what do you guys think?? Any advice?

thanks for reading

Dude, you just answered your own question. You are clearly being too available. Start having your own life on the side, being less available to her, and then she will want to be part of that life and she will miss you. You might think you both love each other now, but if you keep behaving this way, you are bound to loose her eventually.

I would agree Doom-bringer because you are young (college) and in this time you don't have to live together since you are still figuring out shit about what you want from life etc.

I suggest you tell her that you think both of you need their own space. This is normal.

However your job as a man is to turn her on. That doesn't mean you should always initiate sex physically. But emotionally you have to turn her on in order for her to initiate. You can tell her that it bothers you, but that won't help because she will understand it logically, but just won't feel like it.
I know this from experience because I live together with my girlfriend and I had this problem. There are lots of threads here of how to do this and very helpful. A few tips though:
- random makeouts. Be passionate, withdraw quickly she won't even know what the fuck is going on. Then just stop and be normal
- tell her she's sexy. "You are so fucking hot I want to have sex with you right now" Girls love to feel wanted
- take her out. Be random. "I'm outside, get your jacket we are going out now"

This is only a few. The main thing is don't get into routines.

What you should avoid now is getting overly concerned about the situation and start whining about this. Do not tell her that you are concerned about the loss of passion etc.

"I'm giving her pretty much all my time and focus and attention" - This is very very bad. Even if you move together you can't do this because it's very unhealthy. Try to think about stuff you did before you've met and you were single. Things that you enjoyed doing. Start doing those things again until it's too late.

I recommend you to read "The way of the superior man". It's very easy and quick to read and makes a lot of sense