Guys, I need advice, because this is a tricky situation.

I've been dating a girl for about five months, and right now we're long distance. Recently she was visiting me and I looked through her phone because I was worried. An ex-fling of hers has been texting her, flirting with her, and asking her out. Now, in her defense she has not been flirting back, and although she initially agreed to grab a drink with him she later cancelled.

The problem is, she didn't tell me any of this. I had to steer the conversation in that direction in order for her to tell me about it. And, when she did tell me, she didn't tell me the entire truth. She made it sound as though this guy's invitation was platonic, and that she didn't actually set up a date with him but just left it in the open (for sometime after our weekend together) and then later told him it probably wasn't a good idea. She says she hasn't heard from him since.

What really happened, though, from how the texts look, is that -- despite the fact that she wasn't flirting with him -- she agreed to meet up with him before our visit and then cancelled. And I call absolute bullshit on the fact that his message was platonic.

I need advice on what to do. On the one hand, my girlfriend hasn't really done anything wrong: she didn't meet up with this guy and didn't return his advances. On the other hand, she hid the fact that this was going on from me and, when she finally did tell me, made it seem more innocent than it was. As far as I'm concerned, she scheduled a date with her ex-fling and then cancelled. Now I feel like I can't trust her when she says she hasn't heard from him.

What would you do in my shoes?

Have you agreed to an exclusive relationship, as in, have you had the "lets be exclusive" talk?

Girls do that, they flirt to feel wanted and desired, but flirting doesn't mean cheating. Girls will sometimes even arrange dates with guys and cancel at the last moment, I've dealt with that in the past and learned to cope with it, and with time she stopped doing it. Why they do it? Sometimes they don't even know, but they like the attention, it doesn't mean she's thinking of cheating, girls just enjoy guys attention, proven fact, specially when they are so kissing their asses for a date. If she wanted to meet up with him she would've done it, specially in long distance where you'd probably never find out. My advice having experienced this is to just ignore it, keep in your head that you're better than him. Why she didn't tell you the whole truth?? Maybe she thought it would start a pointless argument about someone she doesn't even plan on seeing.

YIKES! I know this is often tempting when dating a hot girl, but it's foolish.
It shows a lack of respect. As a couple, you should talk to her about it. Looking through her phone is always another option, but there might be some time when you regret it. Respect her privacy.

But now, you've already jumped in front of the bus, and have to deal with the ugly truth.

She has a pussy, and she has ex's that still have her number. Of course they will message her, and try to get back into her panties.
It's likely a shit ton more dudes have her number still as well.

It's going to happen from time to time, and I know it's a shocker, but lots of other dudes are going to hit on her when she's back home.

Don't assume that every second that she's not in your sight, that she has had six dicks in her already.

It will destroy you before you even get started.

You have only been together a short time, she was just being evasive in order not to cause damage or suspicion.

You did call "Bullshit", rightfully so, I'm certain his messages weren't platonic at all!
I'm sure she was enjoying the attention.

So! You already have better game Bro, she chose you, she chose to travel the distance to see you, rather than the easier hookup prospect of simply staying home and seeing him.

You have two choices;

1. Trust her so she can trust you back, keep your game tight, so she KEEPS choosing you, cock crush that pussy so good she couldn't THINK of any other dick!

2. Dump her, tell her to pick her fanny up and fuck off and not to trip over a nipple on her way out....

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Hahaha! Too funny!

Both posters have good advice here. Girls love validation and she likes having dudes in her back pocket just in case something happens with you. Its because they are insecure... has nothing to do with you. They like the attention and feeling worthy... especially hotter girls because its been happening to them 24/7. So even when she gets into a LDR and its monogamous shes still gonna have orbiters. Its NORMAL. Even if she is hanging out with other guys...that might not be a bad thing! She will find out they are chodes and your the goods... and will be all over u even more.

GL and dont worry... be alpha and honestly if she doesnt work out... there are a lot more girls... really there are

Duke