So im about to meet with my ex for the first time after we broke up. Its been two weeks and its just to get my clothes and stuff but id really like to get back with her. We broke up because one of her best friends boyfriend was selling her drugs and it pissed me off so i showed up and beat his ass. I had already told the dude i didnt like it and i know it wasnt his fault it was hers and i need to get my girl lined out but either way we broke up on really bad terms and i just know have talked to her since we broke up. I just need some advice on how to approach this and how to get her back. I would also like advice on how i can make it to where this time i dont get back into a relationship where she doesnt listen and i can keep things going good.

I'm going to give this to you straight.

You want her to quit using drugs. She's probably addicted to them. You getting her back is not going to make her quit doing drugs. She will quit when she decides she wants to or has to. Most of the time, that takes a life changing event. Such as losing a great boyfriend and realizing keeping the drugs is not worth what she lost.

Do yourself a favor, get your shit and get the fuck out of there. Do her a favor, don't try to win her back. You broke up basically because she does drugs. That's a good fucking reason. By staying strong, you're doing the best thing you can do to illustrate to her that drugs are ruining her life, not making it better.

Best case scenario, you break free and can have less drama in your life. She misses you, cleans herself up, and you are friends later, maybe more when all of that is done, years down the road. Worst case scenario, you are free to find a woman without the problems, she remains a user, and that's it.

Again, do a favor to the both of you. Get your stuff and get out and don't get sucked into anything. Period!

I feel like in general people regret when they dont drop their exs cold turkey. You might regret it if you continue speaking to her. You defintely won't regret it id you drop her like a bad habit.

good advice on both above posts.

You mentioned nothing of her being sorry the relationship ended. No mention of her improving herself. And though you didn't specify the drugs, doesn't really matter, you didn't say whether she's given them up or not.

Be honest: is this girl's vagina really that magical or are you afraid of venturing out into the unknown with no other prospects?

This girl's attraction for you may have dipped into the negative numbers. That's more effort than attracting a stranger at zero. Remember: turn-arounds never turn around. Food for thought.

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