Was with this girl about 4 months and she started asking me to stay with her every ight because she goes to school far from home and wanted the company. I was unemployed and I didn't mind. After about 3 months of living together she ran out of money and asked for help with the rent and by this point (6-7 months of dating) we were practically living together and I had found a good job close to her school so it was convenient for us to stay living together and for me to basically take over rent responsibilities which I did.

About a month before the the lease was up she left me. She said she wasn't happy anymore and our relationship was exhausting. For the past 2-3 months it was either a argument about her getting a job to help with rent, or her not working and cleaning the apartment/cooking/laundry/working out with me and if she didn't do these things I would basically ignore her and with hold my attention. (I messed up by not rewarding good behaviour enough and punishing bad behaviour too much). A couple instances where she was starting drama I grabbed my bag with some clothes and proceeded to leave and inevitably was sucked into a staying by her tears and begging. In hindsight, I essentially showed her that tears and crying would get her way so that was probably my biggest mistake. That and respectfully telling her she needed to eat healthier and lose weight.

Anyway, over the year relationship I became best friends with her cousin. We'd hang out 2-3 nights a week without my GF around. Coincidentally, his GF of 6 years is also my ex's best friend so naturally this makes things a bit awkward.

Since the break up, I did indeed try to apologize for my ass holishness and try to fix it but she didn't respond we'll to my first post break up conversation so I haven't spoke to her since. In our last convo, I told her to respect her own decision and to stay away from me and no texting me. She argued that we should still be friends and that she still wanted to text and I told her no. Yet, a week later she is texting me about her stuff, the apartment, and I stayed at my friends house and she knowingly comes over at midnight and stays the night too.

I'm not sure how to handle this. The best friend scenario makes me feel obligated to be cool with her coming around or vice versa but a part of me still wants her so I'm stuck in this weird "should I avoid her or be cool with her presence there?" She has been seeing another guy, and ive been seeing 3-4 girls since the break up about 3 weeks ago. I'm not saying I want to jump back into a relationship but I'm unsure how to act around her now and she heard about everything I'm doing from her best friend and when I'm around my friend and his girlfriend they insist on telling me what my ex is doing despite me telling them I don't want to hear it. I've been real close with my friend but the last week or so I've been keeping him in the dark soley because I don't want my ex knowing everything I'm doing and everyone I'm seeing.

Advice? Sorry if this is a mess I'm posting from my phone lol.

She's just cock blocking you, she can't have you so she will make it difficult for anyone else.

Throwing sand in the smoothness of your social circle is her way of doing so.
Of course part of you still "wants her". You spent considerable time together, it take a while for those feelings to pass.

Remember WHY you broke up with her.

In reality, if you have just broken up with someone and you think you are still in love, just answer these questions and put a stop to many nights of wondering.

1. Why did you break up? In my opinion usually one person has compromised who they are, was that you?

2. Did you compromise? Can you learn from this? Next time, don't bend yourself so far as to break, you reached a breaking point for a reason, correct?

3. Would you do it again? Is there any way you could actually go watch your ex bring random dudes by your friends place in front of you, or ignoring you to be with their friends? Think about this one because you can spend the next several years WASTED, thinking that an ex partner was the best thing that ever happened to you, and never move on, if they are up your ass all the time!

Seeing a person for who they really are means looking at their faults too and acknowledging how they treated you when you were together. REMEMBER THAT!

You possess the ability to change your personal life settings, it's not 'fate' that keeps this going, it's YOU!

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