A little background:
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This is what happens when it all goes bad with a drama girl and yes i only have myself to blame, be warned all ye who like drama and the sex that results, you'll fall in love and be owned from thence forth, one day when you try to reclaim your balls - all hell will ensue.
I'll edit this up with background as and when i have time.
So this weekend my LTR (who has "left me" upwards of 30 times in 6.5 Years) decides we need to go look at a new apartment (this would be our 5th move in six years at her request - 1 at mine - which was emigrating), we go, its nice, we drive home and we are discussing the financial implications (Having two flats for a month, moving our shit etc) she gets crappy about it and says in a snotty princess tone don't do it then - i say ok i won't.
That night she goes out with her friends, i go out with mine. (Her friend being someone i fucked while we were on a break - she knows this and yet is close friends with her now, despite the fact said friend would jump me anytime and LTR knows it)
Sunday i get up -she's clearly pissed at me - i ask her three times over the course of the day whats wrong, the last time "are you gonna tell me or shall i wait for a few days till you explode at me instead?"
Monday we don't speak.
I leave for work Tuesday Am
(she screams out the door "bye then")- i get this iphone convo
(Her iphone which i paid for, its on contract for each month through my shop though she does pay the bill, we both had them in march as a treat as the new shop is doing well after 18 months open - i'll be paying that damn thing for another year or so 
)
Her:
I'll be moving out at the end of the month - staying to ensure you ur money
so i can't be blamed. U can stay in this shithole and have the glory of your shop working alone. I'm done
(she borrowed several hundred till payday - always broke in the middle of the month at least these days she pays me back, she's broke again at the start of this convo and is pissed that she isn't going to get further cash unless she asks)
Me:
Because we couldn't afford a new apartment?
Her:
Because you couldn't or wouldn't. And yet again let me get my hopes up like its funny.
(I don't reply)
22.17pm
Her:
What is the password on ipad so i can update youtube pls?
22.41
Her:
Mature
(My ipad, at home because she broke her laptop and never got it fixed until completely fucked - should be at my shop in customer waiting area)
00.30
Me:
Exceedingly - my phone was on silent.
Her:
Amazing how it never is wen ur with me
Me:
Never what?
(She doesn't reply, i go home, get into bed, after about half hour a roll over and my arm brushes her back "don't fucking touch me" in seriously the sickest voice i've ever heard - and she's pretty good at nasty normally - this was special.
Sadly i'd had two bottles of wine in the process of avoiding going home so i got pissy "till just now i was prepared to be reasonable, not now, get the fuck outta my bed and go sleep on the couch"
Which she does with some irrelevant shitty words between us.)
Next Morning - I get up - leave for work.
I knew i was gonna regret getting snappy the previous night
Her:
Should i hang around for u to make my life hell as you out it or should i start packing?
Me:
One snap comment because i'd let you get to me and you expect world war three.
Her:
As you would say i can only go from what you say.....
Me:
Stay till end of month as you wanted or leave if that's what you want, your life your choices to make.
Her:
Thanks the extra time would be helpful. Yes thats exactly what i'm gonna do as i've lived under your rules for faaarrrr too long
Me:
Then why wait
Her:
Bcozz i can't just find a flat over night. The end of the month is quickest without causing more issues.
Her again:
I have the cat don't forget clever dick
Me:
Oh so i put up with you being a complete bitch because of your convenience? Seriously?
Her:
U wouldn't have had none of this if u had taken my feelings into consideration.
Her again:
U tell me to view, we view, you tell me u have the deposit amount in your back pocket. Then bk out. Go out with Karl till the morning. Thats after letting me know the shop did 4600 last week.
(I said we COULD view, The deposit yes - but it isn't just that you need to move house hence the later convo, i didn't back out - she told me not to do it, yes i went out with the boys till like 6am, she likes to know what the shop is doing each week as she thought it was a mad financial risk for me to open it)
(ironically i'd already whilst this argument was going on made viewings on three other aprts in the same complex as next month i can afford to do it - she is still unaware of this, she will go truely loco if she finds out)
Me:
I'm not getting into it its irrelevant now.
Her:
Lol ok
I don't reply - 45mins
Her again:
Confirms my decision is correct
Two hour break as i didn't reply:
Her again:
And u say i'm bitchy. taken the ipad to work did we.
(She just got home, yes i took my ipad back to the shop where it belongs)
I don't reply - two hour gap.
Her:
If u need a lift i'm in the area now
Me:
I'm good thanks
(Wed is my kareoke night, i came home around 1am - got into bed went to sleep, got up left for work)
As soon as i walk out at 8.30am...
Her:
U seriously don't give a shit do u?
Me:
About what?
Her:
Y i'm leaving u or even that i'm simply leaving you.
Me:
You've told me why. Damn near daily for years. The fact that you are was was your choice, my giving a shit or not is irrelevant after the fact.
Her:
Well nice to know how you feel. Shame i wasted another year in this shithole supporting u. But as long as you have what you want now thats all that matters.
Me:
Lol please, i'd be damned if i'd give you the satisfaction of knowing how i feel. You told me you were leaving i'm letting you. I've said fuck all further. You rationalise that however fucking works for ya.
Her:
I'm leaving because its ur way or the highway and the highway is looking better than ur way. i'm more than u give me credit for..hell of a lot more. So u do wot u wanna do and i'll ensure everyone knows wot a dick u r. Enjoy your day you fucktard.
I ignore this
Her again:
Hope ur business and your ego was worth it
I ignore this
3pm:
Her:
Ignoring me this whole situation is not helping and u no it.
Me:
Take a breath, read the stuff you sent to me.
Any sane person has two options, blow the fuck up, which has a really great history of working for us doesn't it? or ignore it. If i dumped you how would you react?
7Pm:
Her:
Its the fact of what you didn't do to resolve this. I'm out of order leaving but i don't see any other option if u won't acknowledge or discuss it.
Me:
I tried to talk to you three times sunday. since then you dumped me by text i have had no reason to.
Her:
The first time you asked me u told me u were waitingg to blow.
Thats an incentive not to do so and bottle it.
Me:
My point is you could have talked which had no risk to your relationship. Instead you dumped me. How committed can i be to someone who does that.
Her:
Yup i could have but i didnt. Yup i dumped you bcoz i've had enough as i told you i don't want to be with someone who is happy to live in a hole and go out on the piss as and when he wants until stupid hours of the morningg with god knows who doing god knows what. Something u used to hate that i did. The horrible thing is like i told u... u weren't concerned about me after how long we have been together and what i have been trying to do for the last year then maybe ur right. Maybe i should shut the fuck up and leave. how ironic.
Me:
If you had raised those issues as a red flag i would have had a choice to address the or if i wasn't prepared to then let you leave. I gave you that choice over walking out again and again and again. Thats without even touching on the things you've said this week.
(my bad i keep saying the next time she does it will be the last and not sticking to it)
Hour later her:
I sohuldn't have had to have raised it as a red flag - u have told me that for less than this situation. I walk out as i told you bcoz it was too much - it was almost as if done on purpose. The things i have said this week were inexcusable bouts of anger at your lack of enthusiam to resolve this.
Me:
No one has to live with things they find unacceptable in a relationship, if thats how you feel you were right to leave. I don't want to be picked up and put down like a toy or abused in this way so i ignored it.
Her:
My reactions and emotions are based from ur actions.
Me:
You wanted it over i obliged. I fail to see how that justifies the abuse.
Her:
Me leaving is because of ur actions. I'll retype it again - my verbal lash outs at u were inexcusable fits of rage. Forget it do wot u want u already r and have been for a year. Hope u have fun.
I ignore this, go to a friends, chill for the evening - go home at 1am - get into bed, go to sleep, get up for work this morning and go to leave - she tells me i can have car - i don't need it so i say its ok thanks and leave (she is offering me car as she is out of cash for sure and car for sure is out of petrol) - next round....
Her:
Now u r just being a fucking cunt. Wen you come back tonight expect to see everything u own in this house gone. Fuck u and fuck ur life. U fucking waste of space and time
Ten mins
Her again:
U deserve that for the way u r being. Ur bang out of order and i fucking hate you for it. I wasted 6 years of my life on u and u treat me like i mean nothing... u said it was offhand wen you said u would make my life hell... well unlucky because now its ur turn. I'm gonna fuck u up u peice of shit.
Me:
I'm being calm, nothing more.
Her:
Ur being a cold ignorant twat in correction.
Me:
Cold yes. After what you have said to me thats a pretty sane response.
Her:
Well if u would have acted like a human being at the weekend u wouldn't be getting my irrational shit now.
Me:
As i said i asked three times what was wrong if you had answered i would have explained. As you would say don't punish me because you can't communicate.
Her:
I told u why i didn't speak after u asked me the first time. its simple - ur happy to let me walk therefore u r not worth fighting to stay with. Enjoy ur suprise when you get home - then u will know how i feel.
Me:
Great. I just don't get it. You dumped me and spent all week telling me what a bastard i am, so why the fuck are you angry that i am letting you go? You don't want to be with me and i don't want to be with someone who
A: Has that opinion of me
B: Acts this way when they get exactly what they wanted.
Its insane
Thats the end as of this AM - she's gone quiet.
Behold all ye gents a practical example of logic not working, getting sucked in to justifying yourself and a whole host of no no's.
Worst of all - theres a good 20% of me that might still forgive this shit.
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