Hey guys,

Its been a while for me on the forum. I was the pathetic guy who got oneitis over my girlfriend and lost her to another guy, she was so far gone haha I had no hope of getting her back.

Since then I have been as low as it gets, no joke, counselling and everything to try and get myself out of the hole I dug myself. I realize now that the only way to get better is to sarge sarge and sarge.

I realize all the advice I was given on this forum was golden and I due to my AFC nature ignored it and didn’t know what I was doing fully.

I thought I would update you, because a few things have happened since then, but there is one complex situation I could use advice on. I am taking summer school, and in one of my courses is this HB9, super hot, amazing body tan as fuck and just a pure babe. In class I teased her and joke around with her, and we click like no other. I have never met a girl who is more like me than her. We have so much in common, the thing is, she has a boyfriend of four years. Anyways, I was teasing her constantly about Mario kart, and before you know it, we end up playing. One thing leads to another (both completely sober) pretty sure she even initiated, and we end up fooling around, doing everything except sex. It was intense.

We stayed up together for 7 hours, until she finally jacked me off and I came after HUGE blue balls. She left her bracelet behind (pretty sure it was by mistake) although my friends don’t think so. It is now the next day, and it feels a bit awkward, none of us have texted each other. And I wonder if she is going to tell the bf, or whether whats going to happen. Before she left we said “Rule number 1, don’t tell anyone”, and I was like, can you keep secrets, and she said yes, and I was like this is our little secret then.

I know im a dick, the thing is I like her a lot, and she seemed to want it just as much and even have no problem doing it. During the whole thing she was like “im so fucked, im such a bad gf”, and I escalated more and even gave her a chance to stop.

Anyways, I ask, how do I play it from now. Im not going to like, I really like her, she is cool as fuck. Im nervous this changes everything because I don’t want it to. I want her to want me, and want more. I don’t want this to end, should I text her or leave it?

First off good for you admitting you were beta and now your fixing it. But this is a tough one, personally me I'd wait for awhile to see if she'll contact you thru texting or whatever first, but when you see her in person act like nothings changed still tease and joke with her eventually she'll want to hang out again. Whatever you do DONT BE CLINGY, she has a boyfriend and it will turn her off, game other girls so you aren't focusing all your attention on this one girl.

We are talking now, and its the exact same. She says I make her do bad things and that she loves her boyfriend but she has never had what she has with me before with any other guy and that i excite her and all that shit.

Im trying to reorganize another battle of mario kart, and im saying this friday night but im going to a concert and she is like, you re going to find other girls and take them to a bar after....

Just now she is like, ahh i cant tomorrow i have dinner, and i was like , with who, and is like, my bf, that i love....

She also said that she doenst know where morals went when she was with me, but she enjoyed it a lot....

What you guys think...

She turned you down but you still definitely have a chance, when she made the comment you're going to find other girls you should said something confident. Remember she should fear that your going to get other girls as it shows she's jealous. Game other girls and try to set something else up in a couple of weeks.

magicalone is right. Do what he advised.
However, there's nothing complex: she's bored with her bf, she's looking for a new guy. This could be you if you play it right.
She toned it down for two reasons
1. she's not quite sure about you as an option just yet. make sure you keep your head screwed on and don't go AFC.
2. she doesn't want you, a potential new guy, to perceive her as a slut.

So, make her jealous.

How did she reject me, when she began something with me already..?


One other thing, my thinking is, if i make her jealous and show her that I have other girls, she would be like ahh fuck this guy i have a boyfriend what am i doing.... Thats why im trying to play it right.

Yesterday she was like, you will go to the concert and find some girls and go to a bar with them after, and i was close and wish i said, yeah maybe... but instead i was like, wow way to make me sound like a man whore, which im not....


We text everyday, i was thinking of going MIA the next few days.

Why is she doing this... she says she found me attractive, but is that all

From reading your post, you need to stay away from what your instincts tell you because they are still a little beta. You need to write down some of what these guys are saying and not ver away from it. You can NOT be clingy at all. I would almost bet that when she said something bout you were going to go to a bar and find some other girls, you thought about telling her "Naw im not, im waiting to see what you want to do." You should have said something like, "I dont know whats going to happen after the concert. Just going to go out with some friends and have a good time." And then you should go MIA for the whole afternoon of the concert and half of the next day.

THIS is right. Don't be to available for her. You need to game other girls man you can't keep only thinking about this chick its going to kill your game and make you clingy, you need more options.

Okay, she sent me a snapchat today, I wont reply. She is going out to dinner tonight with her boyfriend, i wont reply to anything no matter what if she texts me or sends me something again.

Tomorrow I wont text her, but during the concert send her a snapchat of it, and of myself having a good time, and try and get a girl in the picture as well.

If she asks about girls from now on, ill be like... maybe ) im a man whore right... i guess i have to start acting like one


I feel like she is going to stay with her boyfriend no matter what and realize, fuck what am i doing this is stupid...


How do i get her thinking about me more than her boyfriend.

whysoskinny, you've learned nothing. You're still a needy little boy. I've read some of your other posts (they were too whinny for my taste) enough to say this: you come here, ask for advice but never follow.
Everything members told you about the other girl turned out to be true in the end, isn't it? This time, try and follow people's advice for a change. Grow a pair.

Edit:
PS: not sure I ever said she rejected you...

Why? Again, you are still making contact and think this will make her jealous but it will not. This is a clingy contacting act you are wanting to do. NO CONTACT means NO CONTACT. You will not make her jealous throwing it into her face, it will only show her she will owns you and you are hanging onto her every moment you are without her. No contact means no contact, means she has no idea what you are doing, means she is wondering what you are doing. ONLY contact this girl when she contacts you, DO NOT initiate contact. Go out with another girl, or other girls. Dont wait for this chick. She wants a fuck buddy, be a fuck buddy and nothing more. You need to be cold and treat her like a whore not a friend. She contacts you for sex then great go bang her and leave it at that. She contact you to chat, well chatting is not part of being a fuck buddy.

Hey,

I thought I would post a reply and update on my situation because I could use your thoughts.

So after this last post, we chilled again, and we slowly did a bit more than last time. She sucked my dick and it was a saturday night (her boyfriend went out with his friends) so i was second choice but she came over. It was a lot harder to get her downstairs to my room this time because she felt bad. Anyways, the most she did was suck my dick and everything and I came twice. She left in a rush.

We didn't text for a few days until Tuesday (last night) after class, she drove me home and i was making her laugh during class and this girl in front of her was checking me out, we went to pizza hut, ate pizza and then came home. Ate it, played mario kart, beat her, and then she didnt want to go downstairs so i just went, she followed eventually. After a while of touching and shit, she went to the bathroom, came back, and just went down to her underwear, eventually we fucked. After 2 hours of her jacking me off before i told her okay im not going to last as long as I could so jack me off, ill cum, then ill do it again. we did that, then i came, couldnt get hard for a while, but i fucked her an hour later, she stayed the night. This morning, we had amazing morning sex when she said i was big, and have great stamina, and fucked her intensely doggy style. I came on her chest (her command) and then she left.

She just texted me saying "okay no more all nighters, im drying at work had no nap time either", I replied something witty asking about her as well and mentioning her teasing, and she replied "lol sorry about that, no more teasing or anything im ready to pass out"....

i mean she keeps saying she doenst want anything but comes back, i mean how should i play this. Keep texting her, teasing her, or dissapear?

Your playing it fine because your still making her need your attention and not the other way around. If you keep it this way (don't be needy)she'll stick around. I don't suggest you look at this girl as long term material though, just see what shes doing to her current bf.

Thats the thing, she loves her boyfriend, she tells me that. I dont know what this is, she just says she is attracted to me because we have a lot in common and that im "pretty".

Each time she says "im never coming back to your room or house"... A week later. The thing is, i dont want to make it weekly, I want to make twice a week or three times if I could.

I want her to want it...

I just texted her saying "if I dont come to class, its because I died choking on your hair". (she sheds a lot)

Forget that SnapChat shit.

Competitive anxiety. Build it. Not through overt tricks like physically sending her pics with you and other women ("Hey, look how much fun I'm having!!!1), but covert trickery. Girls pick up on this.

If you're thinking, "But if I play up I have other options, she might be repulsed..." Remember: this same chick has a boyfriend. If she's going to leave him for you, she has to know you're desired.

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