Quote:
So here's my dilemma. I have this ex (oh shit, I know). We've been broken up for quite awhile. We've both done our own things, seen other people, all of that good stuff. The breakup was mutual because she went to school out of town and we couldn't really handle the distance very well.
Anyway, she is in town for the Summer, and we kind of started talking a little bit again. One night we were drinking with some friends and things got really flirty and we ended up kissing, but she was just being really hot and cold about everything afterwards, although she did tell someone she wanted to hook up with me. I really just want a fun Summer thing with this girl. She is really fun. So a couple of weeks ago I invite her to hang out, and she has to cancel. One of my friends and I are at the bar hanging out with some girls we had just met, having a good time, and she shows up. She is visibly pissed. Later on she is texting me about how it was rude and disrespectful. I've been playing it cool so far, just being like, well it looks like someone is a little jealous. She denies it.
Two weeks later, I see her, and she is still pissed. I'm just trying to tease her and play it off, but she is just shitty. I think I made a mistake when we were texting and I said, all it is, is you still have feelings for me and you have to make everything difficult when it doesn't have to be. She informed me she has no feelings for me anymore, and I shouldn't assume I know what she is thinking. Obviously we haven't been in contact for awhile, and she wouldn't be messing with me if there wasn't something there, but at this point she is just shitty towards me, and I think she just thinks I'm a dick right now.
Any tips for how to handle this? Do I keep doing what I'm doing, or is there a way I should try to keep attraction up, but also stop coming off as a dick to her? I'm okay at this stuff, but obviously not even intermediate yet. Like I said this girl is just a lot of fun and I want to have some Summer fun with her, but she is being real difficult. Any thoughts?
Thanks for the help!
Just keep doing whatever you want, you don't owe her shit!
She is jealous but that's just fine, it will just make her want you more.
Ask her to hang out, she likely will screw your brains out!