My fiance and i just hit the 2yr mark, and the shit storm is in full force. I travel to japan twice a year for martial arts training, and since returning, she accused me of fucking around since she's never had a yeast infection, and has gotten one the last two times i've come home. It's such shit, and I've done nothing to bring this about. In addition, she flipped out on me saying that i'm not attracted to her, which is also rediculous. So, i seduced her, and thought things were on the up...till she misread a text I sent her and believed I was being shitty to her. totally not the case. she's been planning our wedding, and wanted to know the date I'd gotten married once before...I wasn't sure exactly, and said I don't fucking know, and it doesn't matter. She went ape shit and now wants to back out of the wedding all together. I told her she was mistaking what i said as being shitty, and I just meant that I didn't remember...no big deal. she's not having it...and now says we just need to take a big step back. Not sure what that means exactly, or how I should handle this. We live together, and she works at my business part time...and she has 2 kids that are staying with us during the week. I've changed alot for her, and she's usually great...but when she's pissed she goes from zero to sixty in record time. She also has trust issues due to her ex husband sleeping with her baby sister. What should I do? cut and run...or ride it out. I love her, but it seems like when there are no problems in the relationship she invents something. I don't like fighting over nothing, and i never start em...but if shit's going great...I'm not surprised when she finds something to fight about. So now i'm dreading going home...and not sure about the state of things. I've also not responded to her last text that we need to take a big step back

It's a giant SHIT TEST! She is going to marry you, so she feels the strong urge to test your worth.

Women test men also to protect themselves from getting hurt. Before giving her heart away to a man, a woman will want to make sure that she will not get her heart broken. So to prevent herself from getting fucked over, a woman will often try to confuse a man by acting disinterested/jealous, and making him jealous so as to tell a man that she’s not easy and not to be taken advantage of.

When a woman tests you, it means she’s attracted to you and trying to find out if she will let herself be more attracted to you on the condition that you pass the tests. Think about it: women don’t test guys that are absolutely not attracted to.

And if you’re passing all of her tests, you’re giving yourself a big, big advantage in building more attraction than before. You’re proving yourself as the obvious choice for her to marry because you’re showing her that no matter what happens, you’re still in control of yourself.

What do you do? FUCKING RUN DUDE! LOL, just kidding, .....mostly.

Just ignore them or act like she never said anything. When a woman tests you, she’s trying to throw you off balance emotionally. By disregarding or not responding to what she said, you’re acting emotionally unaffected by it and you’re not letting yourself fall into the trap. Blow it off, disregard it.

Try throwing one of her tests back at her and see how she reacts to it. By testing her back, you’re also telling her indirectly that you’re on to her tests and that you speak are calling BULLSHIT.

And my favorite, Laugh it off, it will Lighten up the situation by adding a bit of laughter to it. When you’re poking fun and enjoying yourself even while she’s testing you, she’ll know that she’s dealing with someone who doesn't take insignificant things so seriously.

And that’s all these shit tests from women are insignificant.

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So you haven't been sleeping with other women and she's gotten a yeast infection ? maybe she's the one sleeping around ?

as to her cheating on me...anythings possible, but i doubt it...she was on alot of meds and antibiotics after gallbladder removal...I hear that can wreak havoc with the lady bits. As to the shit test...I think you nailed it! Ok, cool...I feel alot better about that, and it makes alot of sense. I need to read up on the shit tests they pull, and learn how to handle em. thanks so much

Agree with her. She's asking for some space the more you push the more smothered she'll feel. Resepcting her is agreeing to it and giving space. Be gentle and compassionate, this is no time for threats or power games.

got it. I just question taking a big step back...i only move forward...not sure what I make of the idea of stepping back...whatever that means. probably nothing....i'll give it no attention, and see what pans out.

Yeast infections come from all sorts of shit. It's nothing more than the amount of bacteria getting out of whack. It could also be caused by her not fucking anyone while you're gone for a period of time, and then you dumping excessive loads in her shortly thereafter. It's all about balance down there and she should know that.

If she's old enough to have a couple kids, and she's got any brains at all, she knows you're not going to fuck someone else and give her a yeast infection. You'll give her something a lot worse than that.

I agree with Heywood, while you're gone, she maybe starts wondering if she could do better, or gets interest from someone else that makes her question whether she REALLY wants to do this. If you're considering marriage I wouldn't just brush it aside. But I wouldn't cave for it either.

Simply tell her you don't fuck around on her, next time you go she can come with if she wants, and that should be the end of it. If there is more to it than that, then a big step backwards is a good idea. Then leave it alone.

RUN

Most likely she’s gauging for commitment. The trust issues and all that jazz should make you think if you really want to marry a woman so volatile. I know I would.

“ I've changed alot for her” This is the root of the problem. Make changes for yourself. Do elaborate on the changes you made for her, could be useful.

Soft next her for now. Respond to text with a simple “Ok” and don’t let her phaze you out. If she comes back in your terms, you’ll be fine until the next shitstorm. If she doesn’t your’re better.

I don't know you and I'd advise you to talk to a friend. One that knows both you and the girl. However, if you want to do what I think, it's this:

GET OUT.

You say you've changed a lot for her. What is she changing for you? Is she being pleasant, which is probably the only thing expected of her? She's a single mother with two kids, working at your business. You're providing for her and her kids, neither of which are biologically yours. She's accusatory and doesn't even have the courtesy of saying TO YOUR FACE that you need a break. She told you that through a text with her damn thumbs. When you get a divorce, is she going to send you a tweet?

She's been divorced before, which means she knows the ins and outs if she ever wants to do it again. Whatever sex you're getting now will be reduced exponentially and the the arguments will only increase. And while that yeast infection could've come from a number of places, you weren't confident in the trust you both are supposed to have to say she didn't fuck around while you were gone.

Do not give up half your shit for something that is so out of your control. Don't be one of those guys who don't wear a condom or get fired or let everything in life happen TO them, not FOR them. Take control of your destiny.

When she wants to meet and discuss it, tell her she's right. You two do need a break and some space. At the very least, agree to that. Don't give up your joy so readily.

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Take your balls back and punish her for being a bitch. She's trying to be a feminazi and overrun your authority. You're the man, not her. Lead her and if she screws around or runs off and leaves because you put your foot down, then so be it. You're better off not marrying an emasculating feminist bitch.

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So I got home last night...didn't say a word about any of it...fucked her speachless, and...I woke up to breakfast cooked for me, a lunch made for work, and a happy girl...seems all's well...who knows about the wedding...i'm sure it won't take long, and she'll be back to planning. oh, and the ring's still on her finger...all a big shit test...or what one of my friends referred to as pussy angst. hahhaha

NICE! Isn't it amazing what a good pounding can do for a girl! LOL!

Just be forewarned, you will be dealing with shit tests from time to time, with this, and virtually any female.
Dealing with them as insignificant is your best defense.

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This is the best move you could've make.

I have a bad feeling about this... If you think it's over just because you fucked her for good you're really going to have a bad time. Problems like these need to be addressed. You guys really have no idea what is going on here...

Shit test... yeah lmao. SHE'S ENGAGED TO HIM. She has made the second biggest investment a woman could for a man(first being children). Why on earth would she need stupid tests? USE YOUR BRAIN PEOPLE!!

Why do you think she's acting all kind now?

Just try to use your head a little for once and throw all the PUA shit away.

I agree 100% with Hobbit. It's so sad how people get caught up way too deeply in this and they treat their wives/girlfriends like they just met at the bar. Try an ESP routine. That will help! ...

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