Hello guys,

what do you think of the 'six month curse' in a relationship ? How far are you willing to go to maintain the relationship ? How have you 'handled' this ?

Me and my GF are going trough this stage right now I think, started to fight sometimes and seeing the person as he really is, and that also means the parts that you or not so fond of. I am sure willing to meet each other in the middle, but I was wondering what experiences you made ?

Do you do your best to make some things special ? like candles etc. or do you just focus on being 'the leader' ? or: how to occasionally do really nice stuff and still lead ?

thanks

I'm having the same problem. 5-8 months limit. And this is the stage where I get insecure against my will.

yeah really sucks, I was also wondering, do you freeze her out to a certain level or do you rather do the opposite and seek rapprochement in this situation ? Ofcourse you must always(!) be yourself, but if you're still in the butterfly-everything-is-good-period and she's past that time, I think it's adequate to adjust your own behavior temorarily in oder not to loose her or be too overwhelming or 'too much'. Maybe I just forgot my own number 1 rule: just don't care ( to a certain level ) ?? Another problem; in the beginning you had sex each opportunity you could get, and now it seems as the sex isn't that good anymore, is the 'sex god method' some lecture you would recommend to get that fire back in your bed ( and anywhere else ) or do you have some really simple 'tricks'

I would really like to hear some opinions/experiences !

It's as simple as this. If the sex is boring, exert some effort yourself to spice it up. If that doesn't work, then you won't feel bad about it ending because you'll feel like staying together isn't worth the effort for you.

Getting AFC at this point is a sign that you're upset about your own sloughing off, not necessarily hers. You are the man, you lead the relationship. You can either lead it to good places, or you can lead it down the shitter. You rarely feel like an AFC if you lead it to good places and the bitch doesn't follow. You always feel like an AFC if you lead it down the shitter and figure it out too late to fix it.

I think the 6th month mark is the end of the honey moon phase. I had a 9 month-er just end and it all started getting shitty, almost to the day, on the 6 month mark. I think that is when real conversations start, where is this going, do you ever want to get married/have kids, you start your first fights, and you see how the other person, and yourself, handle themselves when angry. A lot of people don't like seeing another's true colors shine. I don't particularly have any advice, but I can sympathize and agree with you that the six month mark has been a make or break for me in my last 4 relationships, 2 went on longer than that wrongfully.
Best of luck, if you figure it out let us know!

We broke up.

Well, now the question is how to get over her. Normally I would break all contact, that's easier for me but 90% of my ex gf's good friends are also mine, we're one group. Also, we booked a 10day holiday in the beginnin of juli for my ex gf and me. Grtz

Circumstances have obviously changed. You don't have to go on this trip.

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My mind is fucking with me, I want het back