Well my girlfriend and I have been going oout for around 5months now and I have been ever so faithful, however she is leaving to go overseas for 4 -5 months. And after talking and thinking about it it will be best if we break up as she will be away for nearly as long as we have been going out for

itt really hurts me to think that I'm loosing her not because we don't have feelings for each other anymore but because we have to and it has really broken my heart.

She is two weeks away from leaving and I am very heart broken and last night I slept with this other girl, the way I was looking at it is to see if I genuinely like my girlfriend and not just because of sex.

I don't regrete sleeping with this other girl as it has actually made me realise even more how special my little angel is to me.

However I'm 18 and she's 18 so it seems kind of silly if we wait for each other as we both don't know if we will still want each other when she gets back.

And the thing is I'm not going to tell her at the moment that I slept with another girl as I feel as if we are in the stages of breaking up and it's just how I deal with it. Even though we are going to be seeing each other regularly these next two weeks.

If we decide to get back together in 4-5 months time and she asks if I have slept with anyone I will say yes. But at the moment I feel there is no point in telling her as the relationship has run it's course.


What do you guys think, do you agree or disagree with what I said?

Four to five months is doable. It can definitely be done.

You can do a number of things. You can break up with her until she comes back. Stick it out. Or convince her to establish an open relationship until her trip is over.

All can work so long as you adopt the right mindset and don't rob her of the fun that is her trip. If you become a suck, she will resent you for it.

The one thing I'd advise you not to do is tell her you slept around with another girl. At least until she gets back from her trip.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

You're projecting your insecurities onto her, and the fact you've cheated on her already clearly demonstrates this. Quite simply, you don't trust yourself. I hope, for her sake, you end things.

You had to cheat on her for you to realize how much she meant to you....

you're F'd in the head.

Definitely doable. But you absolute cannot be a negative force in her life once she is overseas, when she communicates with you, you have got to be fun, interesting, full of energy and upbeat.

The fact of the matter is that she is 18 and going abroad. Girls who are traveling or visiting are the easiest lays ever in my experience, it might be an idea to talk about your expectations and boundaries, no miscommunication. If you're not cool with her sleeping with guys abroad then end it now.