There's an artwalk coming up this thursday that my ex usually goes with with her friends, but i just met this Hot Babe (HB9) and I invited her to go with me. The thing is now, i don't know whether to take her or not.

I'm sure my ex will see her but honestly i don't want my ex's friends s**t talking or her feeling like s**t. It's obvious I still like and care for the girl.

I'll give you a little breakdown of the breakup so you guys can help me asses the situation....


I broke up with her through text after i saw she went out to LA close to midnight and didn't tag her friends. She was also being very distant and cold because of issues at home. I feel i came off as needy at that time too and that caused more distance.

I deleted her from Facebook and We didn't talk for a week after the break up but i caved and went to her house and pulled the most AFC move ever....I cried to her.

We end up "being cool and made plans to hang out in the next two days. The day comes and text her "hey lady lumps ready for today? " she replies with something along the lines of " hey writhe, I don't think I'm not going to be able to hang out after all, sorry".


I've got a good feeling she misses me, she was a virgin and just being straight forward, i still want to f**k her...maybe make it a FWB with a potential for a relationship again.

I thought about calling her and and inviting her to art walk instead, just as "friends" but the last communication was that text and that was two weeks ago.

I more than likely will see her at the artwalk and that could be my chance to talk to her and try to set up another date, but i also get a shot at an HB9.

What would you guys do in my situation?
I'll take any opinions or advice.

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So there is an Artwalk that your ex usually goes to with her friends. You meet this HB9 and out of all the things to do in town you decide to ask her if she wants to go to this particular Artwalk that your ex goes to with her friends? C'mon man, you invited the HB9 to this particular Artwalk, hoping the ex would see you with this Hot Babe because she hurt you and you hope her seeing you with this HB9 will hurt her back.

This is a classic revengeful act.

Honestly At the moment, It was the first thing that popped into my head because it was so convenient and perfect because she loves art.
nothing good will probably come from taking her there.
I think I'm just seeking attention from my ex, should i go to the artwalk with another group of friends and try to spark conversation?

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Subciously, i think it popped into your head because you were seeking attention from your ex. And i think you are right "nothing good will come from taking her there". The only way i would say you can salvage the situation is dont go alone with this HB9, your will definitely see it as you trying to slap her in the face. But if you have another couple or more people you can bring with you, it would look less like it to be your idea and attempt to slap you ex in the face with it because it could have been anyones idea in the group to come to the Artwalk. Also, bringing another couple with you, would get you an opportunity to DHV with the HB9. Show her that you are interested in her enough to intruduce her to your friends.

going in a group wouldn't be a bad idea since this would be the second time me and the HB9 hang out, and if she bails i still have friends to fall back on, but now how do i communicate with the ex? should i call her or talk to her there? Like i said i still want to have her around somehow..

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I wouldnt make direct contact with her unless she makes it with you. Which is more likely to happen if it looks more like a group of people you are with. If this happens, make sure you always intruduce your new HB9 to anyone new that she might be meeting, to make the new HB9 feel more important, plus not to be rude to anyone that comes up to group. If the ex does come into the group, just simple chat, nothing special. Never make the new HB9 feel like she is less important at this point, plus making the ex seem less important will make her want to text or call you the next day.

If you happen to make indirect contact which will happen, just acknowledge with eye contact and a nod of the head or simple wave. Nothing that makes it look to the new HB9 as tho you are going out of your way to wave this other woman.

Also, if you were to show up alone with the new HB9, it would probably provoke the ex to send you a nasty text.

The nasty text won't happen, she never liked having outbursts like that and is pretty damn good at keeping composure..she'll probably swallow it and bottle it up inside of her...

Maybe seeing me with friends and the hb9 might give me a chance to communicate without seeming too needy? (through a facebook message because i deleted her number and i deleted her facebook and i have no way of getting her number without asking her friends)

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WTF? Is the ex and HB10? Take the HB9 out somewhere else, have a fucking good time with her, and see how cool she is and if you click. Who gives a fuck about an ex when you have an HB9 willing to date you? She could be the best thing for you with regards to getting over your oneitis.

Read this and read it again until it sinks in