| Tl;dr: girl super emotional after drinks, confessional 'think I love you a LOT' still shit testing regularly, but super emotional sometimes and distant others.
Went out the other weekend, GF of soon to be 1 year. Noticed subtle decline in interest beginning of march. Valentines day, she wore lingerie, made a very romantic gift. Super high interest. I love you's have been exchanged. Etc. pensive for a little while, last week to ten days. Sleeping together again more regularly, although I am gonna see what that's like when she starts ovulating again...at any rate most recent story.
I go over, I get my frame together before I go, pass a few shit tests, lead with plans. She says on the walk over "can you carry my wine babe?" (Sookie tone) I hand it to her with a smirk 'ah no' she forgets her iPhone "babe can you go in and get it?" '...I'm not doing everything for you, what are you crippled?? Go get it stop being lazy, haha' she huffs and stops at the door "yeeeah well fuck you too!" I laugh it off with an 'ooooh' she THEN asks me to carry her shit again I just stare at her and shake my head and keep walking to which she says "oooh I haven't been too nice to you lately have I? I'm sorry babe I love you" stops and kisses me. I say I love her too and we keep going.
At her friends place I sit down and shoot the shit with her friends and flirt a bit with one of her best girl friends. Nothing too major, she was brushing up against me under the table all night, I had a few too many and touched her knee with my hand, a fact she announced to the whole table. I laughed it off or made some joke, my GF just said my name in a playfully upset tone. Night goes on, we go back to her place, things start escalating and she begins to break down crying.
Not even sad tears, just emotionally drunk tears. I comfort her a bit, she says she's happy she just gets like this. We start having sex, she's on top of me and says, tears again, "I think I love you a LOT" and she holds me, we start having sex again but she is shaking and sobbing and has to stop. Now...she says...get this, in a half drunk half sleepy conversation that "I wish he was here" I don't flip out but I say 'you wish who was here?' And she pauses and says 'what? Oh you are gonna think I'm crazy...my cat' we both go to sleep.
Next morning she wakes up, chit chat, I have to go to work. I say "...so lastnight hey?? Haha" she covers her face and says 'I'm embarrassed and never want to talk about it again haha' she then says "but I meant what I said" we fool around for a minute, sexy talking, Brief sex because I'm gonna be late.
One again, what do I make of this. How should I go about thinking of what that meant, actions speak louder than words obviously. But what level of dominance does this girl need, and how can I exert it. It seemed even the slightest bit of refusals to do what she wants made er nearly cream her pants.
Suggestions?
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