Went out with this girl for about 5 months now and she said it was best for us two to take a break due to the fact we havent gotten along well. We know we're very attracted to each other and we like each other. But its constant that we always headbut because both of us have a very similar personality. (not giving in) She broke up w/ me through text and we then talked on the phone. We talk very calmly and i wished her the best. I know she has still feeling for me because she just texted me today saying that she misses, think about me everyday and she said don't forget about her.


After the breakup i have NC her. I just feel like we need to rekindle that fire like we did earlier in the relationship and fix the fuckups that caused our arguements/fight.

But how do i that? I mean she just texted me today... should I wait and still NC or text her in a week see if she still want to hang out and start it slow all over again? Or a fuck buddy? lol

Thank you!

Just remember you broke up for a reason! Go bang some other girls and THEN decide if you want to let her reconnect!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I mean i'm planning to just to move on and be back on my grind, but i do still want things to work out for us and start again. I want to do it before its too late and she loses her feelings towards me.

Your saying two different things. This is what you NEED to do.
But this is what you WANT to do!

It sounds like your on the verge of professing your love and admiration to her?

And how much she means to you? All in an attempt to win her back?

Sound like familiar thoughts?

Bro the reason she contacted you is because she has no idea wtf your up too.

By now she should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.
Let her wonder.

But now she has contacted you, and you think "I have to let her know how I feel before I lose her!"

WRONG.

You HAVE to let her know you are still attracted to her. To do this you need to know how to talk to women.

Express your sexual intent and attraction all you want.

SPARINGLY!

That is perfectly fine. But, don’t let her know you want more than that.
You have to be stone cold impossible to read.

She wants to chase you. She wants a challenge. She wants a guy she cannot completely figure out.

That's what turned her on in the first place!

You gave her the gift of missing you, it's starting to work, and now you want to take it back?

FAIL!

The second part of keeping the attraction going is being able to continually flip her attraction switches during your time in contact with her.

You need to get a life of your own and not depend on her for emotional stability, once you can validate your own life you won’t need her validation. Therefore you will naturally act as an attractive male as you should be.

Every time your apart she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.

Let her fucking wonder!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Not giving in - means neither of you are open-minded. Both of you are always right, neither of you see each others side.

Before you two can work the relationship out together, you both have to change your mindset and be open minded. You were both probably raised differently, and have different out looks on how things should be done. Although this is true, you need to be open-minded, to understand each of yours opinion makes since to you because of the way you were raise but it also doesnt make the other person wrong.


You do need to NEXT her for a while and leaving her wondering. Research what being and open-minded person means and then after she has wondered a while, rekindle it with her and discuss what you have learn about being and open-minded person with her.

Ok, i mean she texted me twice and I didn't text her back at all. So how long should I keep this "let her wonder" thing go?

So i'll only talk to her when she contacts me. What if she asks for a meetup or something?
Thank you!

YES YES and YES!
We exactly talked about this that it is our problem that we are BOTH always right!
We were raised differently and your advice make sense.
I guess it is just a time thing to work on while im not with her.
I just want to keep the attraction while I improve on this and get back with her.

Don't... Just don't...

I've done it I stayed with a girl for 1.8 years and if she takes 1 break, she will take 3-4 others as well! Those kind of girls are uncertain of their relationships and feelings. It will end badly one day for both of you and your heart will be broken like crazy.

Leave while you have the chance!

She wants to know you're not already seeing somebody else. If she wants you back, let her work for it. And texting "I miss you" is not work.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Right I see, I mean have NC her and she texted me already.

So what do you mean exactly by "let her work for it"....
Can you please elaborate on that?

Thank you!!

Her words mean nothing. If she says, "I would do anything for you", those are just words. Take your time getting back to her, and make sure your responses are like, "Haha nice." Give her no assurance you're intent on getting with her.

You think dating other women will kill her attraction, but it won't. She'll work for it then. And you'll think, "Okay, now I'll take her back", but what you should really do is stay with the new girl and evaluate the situation at that point.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

sooooo we had sex yesterday on st pattys day (both drunk).
she kept saying the whole time how much she likes/love me alot.

where do i take it from here now on?

Wherever you want your in control!

Stay elusive, keep her wondering.

The more time she spends wondering what your up too, the more time she dedicates to thinking of just you.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

She texts me everyday and trying to talk to me. So that is hard to avoid lol.
Would it be bad if I just completely ignore it? I mean i reply and small talk.
But how do i send a message or show an impression to tell her i'm busy by not just ignoring her on purpose lol

She is texting back to you either to corral you to become one of her ding dong ex- beta boyfriends who would happily act like her little boys hoping to get through the back door. Not going happen, because she'll find someone better. If you want to end this taunt, just text her back that like

you: Honey, havin some fun
her: what fun hon
you: fun lickin my new girl
her: who is she
you: she fuckin hot tongue burning!
you: bye

I know you felt this is going to insult her. On the contrary, you are telling her that you are still keeping your pride as a man and what a man does best; get some chicks! Show this to her you've got the manly attitude. You already lost her, so you aren't getting her back or maybe. Perhaps a slim chance, but that's pretty unlikely.

Good luck.