Okay so I tried thinking of something and asking my friends and I honestly don’t know what to do so I thought I’d ask the experts.

Story goes like this. About a six weeks ago I added this girl from my school on Facebook (She is 2 years below me, I am a senior) because I thought she was attractive and I noticed her checking me out a few times in school. So we talked on Facebook for about 2 weeks, she seemed interested so I started flirting and it was all going well.

I asked her to meet up one weekend, she was supposed to be going to some party but she came out with me and we had a good time, she herself called it a date. The following day she asked me to join her babysitting so I did, just did some kissing there and then I asked her to come over to mine. We spent the night together, did everything but sex and she seemed to like me. She also asked whether I want a thing with her or whether it is just random and I said that yes I want a thing.

From then on, we texted each other almost every day, spoke in school and all. Next weekend, she asks me to come out, I couldn’t and neither could she the next day. The following week we talked as before but on valentines’ weekend she didn’t really want to talk to me because she heard that another girl in our school has been texting me and flirting with me (I used to flirt with her about 2 months back but not anymore).

That weekend, I drunk texted her that the other girl means nothing to me and that she is what matters. She responds to me that she doesn’t know whether she should be bothered with me anymore and that I need to sort it out with that girl otherwise she’ll just f*** off. I told her I’ll make it up to her next weekend, even went up to her the next day in school and apologized and everything and she seemed pleased with that.

Now here’s the problem, during that week me and her hung out in school every day for atleast a few minutes. On Thursday when I went up to her, she simply turned away and refused to talk to me. That day, someone spread the information that I slept with this other girl, let’s call her girl 2, in our school about 2 months ago. The girl knew that something happened between us as when I was babysitting with her, the girl 2 called me to hang out and so girl 1 often made a joke like why don’t you go see girl 2 if I’m not good enough. Take into account girl 1 is about an HB8.5 whereas girl 2 is about an HB6.

Anyways, I didn’t make much of it when she didn’t talk to me so I left it and texted her later that day. She replied with a big essay about her not knowing that I did THAT with girl 2 and if she did then she’d not touch me with a meter pole and she wants nothing to do with me because I’ve had one too many chances. I explained that I’ve done nothing wrong because this was before I even met her and she said that she doesn’t need someone like me in her life, she thought I was a nice guy but guess not and again, that she wants nothing to do with me. I just asked if we can talk about it tomorrow, she said she doesn’t want to be made look like a mug for the 3rd time and that she’d rather leave it followed with a “can’t really talk so see ya whenever”.

Same day, my friend made a dirty joke about her tweet relating to me to which she replied that she wouldn’t touch me with a meter pole and asked my friend to not encourage me to talk to her the following day. She also said don’t get me started on how much I dislike him right now.

I didn’t speak to her the following day, just made eye contact as she walked by me in school. The same friend told me yesterday that she messaged him thanking him for not encouraging me to talk to her and how she thinks I’m a d*** at the moment. Haven’t made any contact with her this weekend.

I honestly don’t know what to do about all this, I genuinely like this girl and evidently when I was with her she seemed to enjoy my company as well. I know what me and her had was only a few weeks but I really miss her and in the past I would not really be bothered about it but I’m in a stage in my life where everything is going t*ts up and I would really like someone to talk to and that every day like I did with her. I don’t think she is too bothered about it though because she has slept with many guys before me and has only had one serious relationship in the past year. Also, leaving it for a few months or whatever would not work here as I’m in the country only until the end of the school year.

I would appreciate any advice on how to sort it out with her. Do you think there is still a chance? I thought of going up to her and speaking to her in school on monday, would that be a good idea? Anyone know what I could say/do to know whether she is still interested? Please help!

So basically the situation here is that you constantly apologize for something that you shouldn't? Well my advice "Who the fuck she think she is?" you did nothing wrong here. I would go no contact until she contacts. I understand that you have a limited amount of time so make the most out of it (ie. meeting other NICE girls).

She sounds a bit mental. That would be a red flag for me, so you slept with some girl BEFORE you were with her? So fucking what. I agree with the above poster, who does she think she is?

Yeah that's what I would otherwise do as well, cut her off and see what happens, but as I said I don't have much time and I really do want to get back together with this girl.

I went up to her on Monday when she was with her friends in school and told her that I want to speak to her, she literally told me just 'no'. Later that day she texted me come over I wanna hear what you have to say, didn't want to seem desperate so I didn't go and texted her back later that I couldn't come. Same day that evening I texted her that if she wanted to speak we can do so in school tomorrow but I'm not wasting my time to be told no again. She replied that she though it would be fair to be rude to me because I made her look like a twat followed by a yea whatever.

No idea how I did that or what she's on about but I figured that means that she wants to talk. So yesterday in school, I texted her 'can we talk?' to which she didn't reply and had no contact with her from then on.

I'm guessing that's bad? Anything else I can do? As I said I want to get back with her. Problem is I doubt the whole cutting her off thing will do any good seeing as she is probably the hottest girl in her year and there is a lot of interest for her as she also dated a few of the most popular boys in our school before me. Anymore advice appreciated, please help!

Please, do yourself a favor and forget about this girl. You're basically letting her walk all over you and making you feel like shit because of something that happened before you two even met!

She has no reason to be acting the way she is. And you're just supporting it by being a total wussbag and continuing to let her be a total bitch.

I don't mean to come off as being harsh. But really, you deserve better than this girl. Your time is limited so make the most of it by going after someone who isn't going to flip out over every little thing. Especially something as silly as you talking to a girl you had sex with 2 months ago!

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