I need some specific advice here. I'll try to keep this one short. I've been seeing a girl for 1.5 years now. In the beginning we kept it casual and undefined, but as time went on it got more serious to the point where we made it official recently. All that nice stuff happened in the beginning but there's always the other side. She's been pretty insecure about other girls in my life (ex.ones that post on my IG), and just generally who I go out with. I try not to play the jealousy game much anymore as its a tightrope, but I do try to be honest. I'm a good looking guy so I get attention, as does she, but I don't care for who hits on her as much. Lately the problem I've seen is that she's started to get more distant, taking more time to respond to messages, and when she does, the tone is different. When we saw each other recently she was less lovey and more cold and dismissive. Its just those nuances that you pick up, and ones that need to be nipped in the bud. Before anyone says it, I'm 99% sure its not another guy. This usually happens when we're spending time apart (as is the case now with her being away at her parents for the summer). Who knows, it could be a phase or maybe she lost some attraction for me at some point. When she came over to visit not long ago, I decided to talk to her about it, and she said she felt that I was distant so maybe that's why she pulled back, and that she'd been feeling anxiety about our relationship for a while. Funny because I felt she was the one that was distant, and that I was putting in work --initiating phone calls and such. The problem is that she is moving away for work at some undefined point, and she's at an age where she's ready for commitment and starting a family, a point at which Im not yet for at least another few years. As such this would be a long distance relationship, but I know its not possible to keep something like that going if she's going to be distant, or lose feelings. Whats the best way to regain control/attraction in this situation? I don't want to up and leave this girl without first trying to work it out. As I said she felt I was distant which I don't think I was. At the same time I don't think showing her more attention--wanting to talk on the phone/text all the time will solve anything unless I want to nuke all attraction.

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