I've started dating this HB7 and I like her a whole lot, but she's way more into me. I kind of want to keep it that way. She left her previous bf partially so she could be with me. She's always calling me and texting me, but I worry about her falling out of love with me. She has low self esteem and so is partly convinced she's going to eff it up and hurt me, but she's very submissive and stayed in an abusive relationship prior to being with me so I kind of doubt she's actually going to end up hurting me.

But I wonder how to keep her. My last relationship ended because I turned Beta and I'm constantly aware of that. I never turn down a moment to neg her and give her a hard time and she eats it up left and right. But more than that, I've started distancing myself. Not texting as often, or ending conversations early by saying simply "I'll talk to you later babe" or saying goodnight and going to bed.

I'm focused on hanging out with the boys and not turning them down just for her. Like if I'm watching a movie with my friends and she calls, I'm not going to leave them for her, y'know? If I'm tired, I'm going to just go to bed and not stay up just because she's texting me y'know? In the past I'd talk until my gf said she had to go or had to go to bed and that's totally beta imo.

Is there anything else I can do to maintain interest? She's head over heels in love with me and I don't want that to change at all. I don't want her to lose interest, but my worrying about her losing interest is surely what will cause me to act beta, no?

Advice?

Yes, your worrying about losing her interest can cause you to act beta. You defined a few flaws she has that would be red flags for me. I personally wouldn't want to have to game her constantly for life just to stay in the relationship or maintain attraction. I'd rather be with someone who just is attracted to what I am and what I want to be.

One way to boost her self esteem is to tell her nice things, but doing it in a non beta way. For example, tell her she is pretty hot shit and she should know it, because you wouldn't be with someone who wasn't. This gives her something to feel good about to boost her own confidence/self esteem, but still doesn't make you look like a beta chump who is putting her on a pedestal.

It won't kill you to do these things every now and then. She'll appreciate it a lot. Just dont overdo it.There's nothing alpha in being emotionally unavailable and if she'll never get the feeling she has any importance in your life no matter how hard she tries , she wont stick around for long.

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