Hey,

It has been a while since I have posted on this site. I have come a long way since my last post and found myself to meet an amazing girl who is pretty, fun, kind, smart, sexy and everything I want in a girl.

We knew each other from a while back, but we started talking when I was in North America, and her Europe. It was fun and exciting when we talked through SPAM on our phones. We would joke, tease, and we grew together through talking. Finally it came to a break where I was coming home and I came back to where she lived (and I had lived). We met up and I spent the best month of my life with her. Everything click perfectly. We did everything, sex, talk, memories, go out together, come over, meet the parents. It moved so fast and felt so right.

Now am I back in College and her is back at home. I go home in 3 weeks again, and then after that 2 months. Then I am spending summer near her, and I am trying to go on exchange closer to her.

I absolutely have fallen in love with this girl and I am trying to find ways to make it fun and entertaining at the same time with the distance. We are now boyfriend and girlfriend and it is official, and I am trying to find ways to make it fun and last.

I want this to have a future, I have been around girls but I have never met a girl like her. Is this possible that this could work out. She tells me she doenst want to lose me, and I dont want to lose her, but she is so relaxed, calm, chill, laid back, and I am beginning to realize I need affection and I want her to miss me and show it because I miss her so much.

It's Obvious
Stay with her
If she doesn't have something concrete at home maybe you should move in together

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She lives at home for the moment of time. On top of this I am in University. I am just wanting to find out how do I not get repetitive, how do I make it exciting.

Ether you make the step of marriage

Or a lot of skyping

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SPAM video calling helps a lot to see each other. The only thing you have to be aware of, is that she will long for your touch and THAT has to re-initiate.

The biggest advantage yet disadvantage, is distance. Many couples who live in close proximity, tend to spend TOO much time together, touching and feeling, but never really talk.

Distance also helps with space and time. A women can never tell you "I need time off" or "let's take things slower" or "we need to spend time apart", because you have all those things. The biggest advantage of distance, is communication, which I feel is lacking terribly these days in regular relationships. All you can do is talk, and you end up talking about everything and anything. So you can actually talk our issues out and work through them.

One last thing. Trust. Trust. Let me say that again. Trust. You have to trust each other, that she won't go to another guy while missing you, looking for safe refuge. And that you won't be getting bored with her, and go around dating women. Maintain the trust otherwise you will get highly reactive every time she wants to go out or whatever the case may be. And once she's broken that trust... yeah well then all the wait and the missing and the longing to see each other was for nothing

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The thing is, I could possibly be moving next year closer to her. I made it look like their is a lot of opportunity in that place I could be near her but it is mostly for her. She is probably the best girl that I have come across, very good looking, smart, and honest.

She has a lot coming up, and this is what worries. She is going with 11 girls to a party island in this month, then she has exams, then after that she goes to Ibiza on her senior trip.

I trust her, but I cant help but feel uncomfortable and unsure of our future.

Is there anything I can do to make this girl think more of me than I of her, because right now I have fallen into a bit of oneitis.

By long distance, I am unsure how to play it

I also want your opinion on whether it would be right to ignore her for a bit. We talk every day, every single day. Would it be good to dissapear for one day, or is that playing the game and maybe there is no need for the game.

I dont want to loose this girl, and I feel like now is the time where I make her fall for me like I fell for her, do you have any advice

You're in university. You're moving to somewhere that doesn't have the best opportunities for YOUR career and life for HER.
ONCE YOU EVER EVER EVER PUT A WOMAN BEFORE YOURSELF AND YOUR FUTURE, YOU HAVE ALREADY MESSED UP. It means you want to be with her more than anything, girls can sense that and ALL girls get turned off by that shit. In a few months, she'll grow bored and lose respect for you, you'll miss her more than she misses you and you'll try to overcompensate or game her to get her to invest (you already have by considering disappering).
It's oneitis.

Fuck, surely there is a way I can go there without her knowing it. I mean it is an exchange option so it isn't that bad for my career. What do you suggest?

I agree about the part regarding his future but I disagree about the rest!

It's right that you should never sacrifice your own future and move somewhere that would be detrimental to your life goals! You need those goals and ambitions to keep her interested and to provide for yourself.

Now the other stuff I disagree with...There comes a time when you need to grab your balls and give a relationship a chance. If she really likes you and you maintain the frame you have currently then you will have no problem.

Plus if there is a genuinely good work or financial reason to move closer then go ahead and do it!

I moved 6000miles for my wife! Although it was an easy decision lol. I moved from rain and snow to tropical heat

The thing is,

We have reached a stalemate. I realized it today.

Lately I have been talking about the future, and me and her. 2 weeks ago she told me that she could see me in her future 3 years from now, and when I mentioned that to her again, she didn't really touch on that topic.

I don't know how I can keep this exciting and fun, when I was getting her it was exciting and fun. I made it exciting and fun but now that I have her I have to keep her and I don't know how to do it by distance. Can any of you guys help me because I am not acting Alpha, I am becoming an AFC and I feel myself thinking about it all the time.