Heyy fellow PUA's, this situation is very up and down. weird. I'm with this girl nicole for 9 months,[/color] we had a fight about me not trusting her because i asked to see her phone then we got over that fight for that moment but then i asked why aren't we intimate anymore? "oral sex, naked" she said she was bored and the spice was gone. I was shocked and i agreed with her "when i didn't" then she tried to call me but i ignored her. she said I'm not good enough for you.. etc sooo after all this we almost broke up. i came to her to work things out. she said she's not going to break up with me BUT she wants to take it slow and she said she doesn't love me anymore because she's not sure if i trust her. I asked her why is she with me if she doesn't love me... she said because she cares about me. She wants to take things "slow" she doesn't think it can work out but she still wants a relationship i guess because she doesn't want to drop the axe yet. The question is... want can i do to change this all around before this shit happens?? how do i make her see that i can trust her? You guys are my only hope..... i don't want to lose my first love but if i do i rather try my best before its gone for good. :c

I think you're being very needy with her, you shouldn't be asking to check her phone up anyway, it's a grave sign of weakness. What can you do? Start trusting her. A girl can go out, have sex with any guy whenever she feels like and there's nothing you can do about it, what you can do though, is be the man she wants to have sex with, you need superiour value to others if you want her to stick by your side, and being jealous, needy, whatever is not helping.
I would find something that keeps you occupied, start being more busy and have less time for her, go out there and work on your game, make her feel that she's the one losing value, become the guy she met again and stop being sentimental about things. Tell her You were wrong, that you do trust her, heck, be like, you know what? You're right, feel free to go out with some friends, blablabla. Make her feel that you dont mind her doing her own thing.

My girl is texting quite alot aswell, I to would wonder sometimes who she's texting, but i wouldn't ever ask, it's her business, her life, if she wants to meet other guys, so be it? She's not worth your time and effort.
My girl just gets me involved in her texts, laughs about it and tells me about a joke one of her friends sent, i even acknowledge them and laugh about it, giving her a good response back; whatever. She trusts me and she knows i dont mind her texting, it helps alot. 99% of the time, she's texting some of her (girl)friends.