Ive been dating this HB9 for around 2 months. At the begining she was sort of clingy (which I liked) I didnt abuse it but stayed cool. Around 3 weeks ago she became distant. I asked her why and she said "I always start the conversations i want to be engaged" Now ive told her I dont text much while im at work im passionate and focus with what I do. She remains distant. In an attempt to pull her back I obliged her request and enganged more often to no evail. now we end up talking maybe once every two days and all it will be is "hope you have a good day" or send me a naked pic" haha Ive also tried to set up a day to kick it but her grandfather is in town so she wants to stay with the family, or so she says.... should I freeze out? I believe I may have turned into an AFC after she got upset... id like to keep her shes beautiful and cool. although at this point if things dont turn around ill probably just move on!?!? any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Thank you!

Her behavior is causing you to become dependent on her attention, not a good place to be.

Her little shit tests are making you NEEDY!

There is likely another dude sniffing around, waiting to take over.

If she is as hot as you say, don't be naive and think your the only one paying attention.

She wants to chase you. She wants a challenge. She wants a guy she cannot completely figure out.

I would freeze her out a bit, hot on some other HBs. Go have some fun.

You have only been "dating" for what? Two months? And a couple little shit tests later your getting all needy?

The reason why girls hate guys that are needy is because girls are attracted to MEN. Being needy is a characteristic of a child not a man.

A Guy who acts like a child (needy) “is asking" a girl to treat you like a mother and girls hate that. Women want a man that can lead them into wonderful experiences. Women want a man that can make them feel beautiful, sexy, fun, safe, excitement, desire, attraction, all at the same time, regardless of age, income, or looks. A woman has to surrender to you in order for these things to happen. How do you expect her to do this if you are the one acting needy? How do you make her feel all these amazing emotions if you're the needy one? A real man has to be a leader. Then women will follow you. When YOU are a leader then the needy ones will come to you. So when a woman needs love and intimacy she will not only like and want you, she will have to stand in a long line.

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Notice how this works. She was needy at first, then eventually she became aloof and YOU became needy. I'm curious as to see how she would react if you froze her out, because it sounds like she changed her attitude because you weren't showing her enough attention in the first place. So I doubt showing her less attention will fix it.

You aren't mixing up your game enough. Here is what a girl wants. She wants a guy who at first is distant and detached. That way he is not clingy or needy. Then she wants a guy who is really sweet and nice so she feels like she's daddy's little girl and is being pampered and babied. Then she wants a guy who puts her in her place or strangles her ass when she acts up or punches his fist through the fucking wall when he gets mad. That way she can have amazing make-up sex with him because her emotions are heightened and it's more passionate and intense.

There's many gears that you have to shift through in a relationship, you can't just idle through it or go full throttle the whole time. You need to upshift and downshift and mix it up. Keep her emotions on a roller coaster ride the way women like it.

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I have to question how old/mature this chick is. Immature women will shit test and play games and all that.

I'm in my 30s, and I've now met a few women who do not play games, they are mature. They are honest and straight and cool. Your post makes this chick sound more mature than someone in her early 20s.

If I'm right, chances are that she was feeling you, and told you this when she said she wished you initiated more conversations. The problem is, she had to tell you this, and when she did, you changed your behavior to appease her, which is a no-no. Essentially, she wants you to want her, but doesn't want you to be something other than what you are just because she told you so.

If you think she is not just playing games, I'd tell her that you feel like she told you what you wanted, and because you like her and think she's cool and that there is more possibility than just someone you dated for a bit, you tried to illustrate your interest by trying to be what she wants you to be. I'd tell her you think that just doesn't work for you, and you don't feel like it's working for her either. I'd say you appreciate her being straight with how she feels or what she wants, and that you'll do the same, but that the way things are now that you feel like you have to just be honest with yourself and be who you are. I'd tell her you'd really like her to be a part of that because you really do like her.

I say all of this because in my experience, a woman who has grown up has reached a point where after a few months, if the level of intimacy, and by intimacy I mean level 4 and 5 communication isn't sufficient, they will leave the relationship, or will at least stop putting effort into it. They actually seem like they become aloof themselves.

I appreciate the fast responses gentleman. After reading tham all through and thinking them over I agree that any of these could make sense in diffrent situations. I agree with parts of each response for mine. I do believe that I should not go out of character to please anyone. Slight error that is noted. I believe what it comes down to is her associating pleasure and fun with me. By my feeding into what she wanted I became the needy AFC... unfortunently. By being myself and living my life not letting her dictate how I feel shes gonna be attracted to me because she does associate me with good feelings. As for another guy sniffing around, I dont know if there is anything I can do about that besides be the fun guy she desires and remain aquinamous. any other thoughts or corrections on mine wold be appreciated thanks again.