Hey guys, me and my girlfriend were going through really hard times, we would fight alot and argue about every small thing and make a big dea out of it, we felt like we don't want to talk to eachother.. I asked her if she wants to break up and she was like yes because im getting bored of all these fights and arguments and i dont think we'll ever be able to fix them.. so i broke up.. i tried to apply the no contact rule and she messaged me later that night and told me she loves me and she's sure we'll get back together... We talk alot now and she told me that when she thinks i might be better off without her it kills her from inside.. but also whenever we talk i end the conversation and be like im busy now i'll talk to you later.. i really love her and i believe this break up will fix things and show her how valuble i am to her... but the thing is, should i keep doing the no contact rule? or should i talk to her normally until we get back together? I think that the no contact rule is useless in my situation because we both love eachother and we both know we'll get back together in the coming days but i still don't want to show her that she can have me whenever she wants. i want her to miss me but i'm afraid she'd move on if i stopped talking to her.. any advise ? thank you alot .

Your fixing it on your own without realizing it, here's why. She wants to chase you. She wants a challenge. She wants a guy she can not completely figure out.

Every time she leaves you she should be wondering if she will ever see you again. She should be wondering how much you like her. She should be wondering if you’re seeing other girls.
Let her wonder once in a while.

That is the art of the chase. The more time she sits around wondering what you’re doing… the more she begins to convince herself she is in love with you.

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I'm in a similar situation, asked a new girlfriend for a break cause we are apart for a few weeks and we've just been fighting over stupid stuff. I told her "this isn't working, do your own thing for the rest of break hook up with whoever if youd like, and we'll talk when we get back in town." This is hard man. its hard. but its the alpha thing to do to not contact her. you gotta let her miss you. Delete her number if you have to and everytime she texts you delete it before you respond so you can't. If you want her back you have to let her go, in your case, i would say for a while. game so other girls man. it may seem like its what you want but you gotta unplug yourself from the relationship man. She's making you go beta. There is no ONE right girl. Go game other girls and if she wants to be the ONE than she will change and chase you, but don't make it easy, and don't do it fast. NC for atleast 2-4 weeks man will solve this.