Long story short, I got out of the friendzone 5 months ago and basically started an extremely happy relationship with my best friend. We saw each other 5 times a week because I picked her up from school. From there we would go to my house to watch a movie and cuddle, or her house and have sex. 3 weeks ago, she started getting really busy and stopped wanting to hang out with me. She wanted to hang out with her friends. I understood and made plans with my own friends. But last week, I got extremely mad because she kept flaking on me. After I got extremely mad, she suggested we take a break from the relationship and try to be best friends again. I agreed and I thought it was going well. Today she told me that she's falling for her ex again only because she feels confused. She used to find comfort in me and now all she finds is stress. She now finds comfort in her ex and wants to get back with him (and her ex wants to get back with her too). She has an ROTC competition this saturday, so I only see her tomorrow and the day after. I have that long to try to show her that she shouldn't go back to her ex and to stay with me.


I only have a few hours these next two days so any advice?

Tony's got it. You're already flailing, unfortunately. The best you can do at this point is agree to "just be friends" and then be less available and indifferent. A story like this is exactly why I don't mind the friend zone with my best (girl) friend. Sex risks the friendship, for sure. I know you're thinking you have limited time frame before the ROTC, but life ain't a movie, you can't just "win her back", really I think your best option is just to end it gracefully and let her do her thing with her ex. Sounds like she's already checked out, so if it's not officially over you may as well check out as well.

Continue being her "friend" but you'll have to be patient. Date new women. Be glad you at least had a shot getting out of the friendzone, and remember (as Tony said) her ex is an ex for a reason and most likely it's not going to work out there. She's probably just having second thoughts, but those old problems come back sooner or later.

I think it's important to control your emotions at this point and let her do what she will, don't contact her. It's really easy for me to sit there and type this, it's hard as fuck to do. But it's the right course of action, trust me, I have a lot of experience in doing the wrong thing and screwing up!

We have a performance this Friday... I can choose to not do it because I'm not part of her school, but should I? I'm the leader and cancelling last minute seems really bad.

Don't cancel. That's reactive. Proceed with plans as normal.

Well man at least you got to tap that ass. It's rare when you can pull yourself out the friendzone like that.

She's made it clear she's trying to go back to her ex I'd start distancing myself and pick up other woman you'll find someone way cooler and better looking I promise

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It's over. I don't want her back. She fucked her ex while she was still with me, then went on a date with me the next day like nothing ever happened. She wasn't even apologetic when she found out I knew. I'm glad I dumped her