Hey Guys,

I need some help from you, I got this one problem, I think it's about self esteem....

So my girlfriend, does not a single thing, which would ever give me a reason to think wrong things.
But every time somethings feels wrong, my shit head starts to wonder about the unrealistic things one could ever think of....and this kinda dumbs my nerves.

So I have usually no problems with self-esteem, I know that I'm pretty cute and handsome to girls, I've been told this nearly everyday since I was 15....and I know my girl is so fucking deep in love with me, but then theres my head fucking around with me.

What should I do, to handle this, cause I'm really out of ideas for this one ---> So what do you say ?!

I really want to know this man, you have to elaborate a bunch of scenarios that you come up with, some outrageous shit that really makes us understand how your mind ticks!

So you have insecurity issues, which is okay. It might surprise some, that I call insecurities "okay", but to be realistic, in today's world a man and a woman have plenty of options to consider and a bit of insecurity naturally creeps in.

If you think she really loves you and is mature enough to handle things, and you have been in this relationship for a decent amount of time, you could consider being honest to her about this and the fact that you need more security. Sometimes, even though you know certain things, having them said by your SO is very reassuring.

Besides, women need security primarily. So you telling her that you need her to make you feel secure would act as a sign of security for her too.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

I'm reading a book called "I need your Love: Is that True?" Some good advice right off the bat in chapter 1. It discusses how the mind can create thoughts, and thoughts can and do affect how you feel. Once you are concious of them, you can learn how to control them fairly easily, but most people never learn this.

The advice I'd pass on from the book is what the book calls Turning a thought around.

So when you feel bad or insecure, write down or focus on the simple core thought that makes you feel that way.

Say your thought is "She really thinks that guy she works with is cute and funny, and probably wants to cheat on me." The core of that thought is not that she might think someone else is cute. What do you care about that? Lot's of guys are good looking. The part that is an issue is "she probably wants to cheat on me." Turn that thought around, and examine the opposite of it. "she doesn't want to cheat on me." Think to yourself a few reasons why the opposite thought, the idea that she doesn't want to cheat on you is true. You'll probably find that there are tons and tons of them, and each time you think of another one, you'll likely feel your bad feelings disappear, and after just a minute or to you realize that it's much more likely that she really doesn't want to cheat on you. And away you go.

Thus far the book has been really good, but I'm just getting started. When I'm finished and can grade it completely if it's worth noting, I'll be sure to add it to the inner game forum.

Wtf this is just self indoctrination. Like Boris Jeltsin saying the Russian economy was doing great in the nineties. Closing off your minds for unwelcome information leading to a less accurate picture of the world. So you will act on a bias and likelg fail!