After traveling to another country to find myself and enjoy my being single, I found this girl who's good to be in a relationship with.

Sweet girl as you may say but understands the need for both of us to socialize and meet other people- provided we both set boundaries.

I like that.

After a couple of weeks together, I bumped with my ex in the club and we had a little chat.

The next day I received a text message saying she wants us to start over.

We really never had a break-up, it's just that I got busy with my new stuff and she let me venture to some new grounds so I can be a better person as she puts it.

I'm torn between my girlfriend and my ex.

Both are dear to me.

If you are in my shoes what will you do?

I just need to brainstorm before doing anything stupid.

Thanks guys!

She wants what she can't have. Stick with the new girl. Chances are your ex will become less interested if you break up with your new girlfriend for her. Why risk it if you've got a good thing going? You can stay in contact, but keep her on the backburner, and don't cheat on your new girlfriend with her either.

pretty much every ex i've ever had has made wanting to get back noises the moment i've moved on, i'd stick with the new girl if i was you

It's an often told story. Girl breaks up with you, you move on, get attention from or start dating another woman, she wants back in. You let her back in, she slowly takes power again, and you're back at square one.

Everyone's gonna tell you, despite how you might feel right now, to stick it out with the new girl.

Indeed, stick with the new girl. I've been in the same situation: my ex broke up with me for no apparent reason (= lost interest), and five months later I'm dating a new girl in the same social circle. As we were still friends (a mistake I don't make anymore), my ex asked me if i wanted to do something sometime.

So I meet up with my ex (whilst in a new relationship), and she seduces me. Lost the new girl, thought to be back with the ex, but the ex dropped me after two weeks like I was a pile of sh*t.

Result: I was single again, and my ex was happy about that. I'm not falling for that again, and neither should you.

[update: since then I have zero contact with that ex and started PU which is going fine. I do wonder if I could get back in contact with that ex and sarge her, then dump her. Would put me in control again and even the score, but I can't find posts about this on the forum. Anyone know if a girl you fucked up with a long time ago is susceptible to PU?]

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Game on

New girl.

The ex thought you were going to live like a monk the rest of your life: a simple and quiet existence, with no new women or major successes to speak of. She's only now realizing she's wrong and it hurts like a bastard.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

New girl. I did the mistake of getting my ex back and since then all I'm getting is trouble.

Thanks!

I was thinking of going out with her just once for the old time's sake.

She still texts me and say things like how she's not in a relationship since we parted.etc. etc.

But yeah, you're man..

Thanks man!

I'd definitely will.

After a few days of thinking...

I realized, I have something good going- so I'll not mess it up.

Because if she was in a relationship, she wouldn't be texting you. Since she is, she's either not in one or in one that isn't fulfilling to her. When you're at a ridiculously fun party, do you stop and wonder about other fun parties that you may be missing out on? See what I mean? Enjoy this one, man. Cheers!

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

couldn't word it better myself