I firmly believe that my girlfriend is different to all the others. Yes I know, you’ve read this and heard this many many times, but I will explain why.

She is 21, and less than a year ago, she has never had any experiences with men. She has never been out on a date, touched, kissed, etc. Growing up, she tells me that she was a bit of a boy. She never really liked wearing dresses, getting involved in relationships, doing her hair, so on. I once asked her who was the last person she fancied. She replied (forgot his name), and then I finally ask her, so how long ago was this? She replied 12. She has been very different to go out with. Game does not work as affectively on her, than on other girls I have been with. She grew up in 2 countries where sex before marriage is actually illegal (arab countries, but she is not muslim, she has no religion, just beliefs) She wants to have sex with only 1 person ever, at first I thought this is something all girls say, but I really believe it now. I think this info is important to my problem…

I gave her, her first date, kiss, bedroom experience, she has done everything sexual (apart form sex) with me. Even though she is a virgin, her hymen broke (she horse rides a lot so I was never suspicious that she was lying about being a virgin). This means I can finger her. At first it was tight, but after fingering her a few times she has loosened up a bit more (sorry to be so in detail). We were waiting to go on the pill. She has just got on the pill and I tried to have sex with her, but failed, she was simply way too tight. So here are my problems:

I don’t think she likes the sexual experience.

NEVER, have I given her an orgasm. I have tried everything. I have done everything to her clit (oral, lube, finger etc). I have tried giving her a vaginal orgasm, and nope, nothing. I have tried everything… TRUST ME! EVERYTHING. She has never even got that wet! She doesn’t moan a lot when I go inside her with my fingers, and even though I’ve fingered her with 3 fingers, she is still so very tight. It’s been 5 months and nothing. When she goes down on me, I know she doesn't like it, but she'll do it to please me. She doesn’t even shave down there. I believe she just doesn’t want sex.

Is it because she is still a virgin that there is some kind of barrier in her mind?

Her sex drive is just so so so low. Any sex drive she shows, like when she initiates in the bedroom, is simply to please me. It’s actually come to a stage where if she said she cheated on me, I wouldn’t believe her as I know she doesn’t like sex. She likes me playing with her clit, but never an orgasm.

For ages I thought it was me. Which is why I never gave up. A pua never blames the girl, and I think because of this I have been naïve. Is she different? Is there just something missing? Maybe she doesn’t get turned on? is that possible? I have never failed with any other girl I have been in bed with. fuck, help me

Read up on David Shade... particularly the use of your voice and finding the "deep spot" with your fingers. Deep spot = money, g-spot/clitoris are child's play comparatively.

But more importantly - that sucks, and it is in NO way your fault. Not at all.

Disclaimer: I know nothing of your experience with women, so don't take offence if what I say sounds a little basic. Nonetheless, I would say there are two problems and that they are rather basic:

1. Too much pressure.
By focusing so much on giving her an orgasm, there is pressure to perform. You feel as though there is something wrong. She feels that you think there is something wrong, and this puts pressure on her as well. And although at first you blamed yourself, now you are starting to blame her. But is there really something wrong? Is sex not enjoyable without an orgasm? Is an orgasm really that important? Suppose she will never have an orgasm in her life, is that the end of the world? The goal of sex, if there even is one, is to have fun. Sex is not fun if there is a constant pressure to perform, to achieve the goal of orgasm. If you shift your focus on achieving an orgasm to making the whole experience fun and enjoyable for her, I promise you that it will work wonders.

2. Too little tension
If she's not very wet, you can take this a sign that she's not very horny. For example, I cannot imagine enjoying being 'loosened up'. So you'll have to work on different areas of her body, e.g. kiss her neck, stroke her hair, or give a nice massage. Let her tell you what she likes to think about when she's alone, what she likes to do when she feels frisky. Tell her it's not embarrassing to share, you're trying to do her a favor! And although not everyone has the same libido, I do not believe in the asexuality thing posted above. Everyone likes sex at some point in time, it is hardwired in your brain to feel good. She has just not experienced that good feeling yet. Again, less focus on stimulating her pussy to bring her to climax and more on making her enjoy the whole experience can improve your situation vastly.

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