okay so i have a problem.
ive been with my new girlfriend for around 2 months. originally she seemed pretty nervous during sex. she enjoyed it dont get me wrong but it was just the impression i got.. after a while she was telling me how shes very hard to please and she doesnt cum much. i didnt buy into any of that crap and just assumed it was her limiting belief. since then ive made her cum a few times from oral sex however she always goes on about how its hard for her to have an orgasm and how she will never have one during sex.

im thinking that its just the way she thinks about it. shes so convinced she cant have one and shes so uptight about it that it wont happen. (im not crap in the sack, ive made pretty much every girl ive had sex with cum, and i made my ex cum almost every time we had sex)

ive said to her to just relax and not think about it. and ive told her that the reason she cant is because she doesnt think that she can. she then starts going on saying oh ive got a deal with my friend that if i dont cum by the time im 21 then he said hes gonna make me squirt. its just pissing me off now and im letting it effect my own headspace. which i know i shouldnt. help/suggestions?
cheers

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I don't know man. The sex thing will come with time (pun absolutely intended). The deal with her friend thing, on the other hand, is something that is really messed up. If my gf said that I would let her know that was disrespectful to me and maybe you can go try with him now. Then soft next the shit outta her? I dont know.

Try making her really really close with oral and then finish her with sex. Works for me with these kinda girls

^^^^ Great.

The friend thing is fucked up, I would have gone Alpha and said something along the lines thats unacceptable to tell me.

Have you already had a talk with her , about her fantasies... about everthing , her view... bla bla bla. Does she have those troubles when masterbating. Favorite position, you guys are in relantioship for something. Perhaps she also needs more reassure or confidence about her looks, brain and BODY...

Would recomend you reading some David Shade...

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The thing with her friend... You got to put her in her place man. FFS if a girl said that to me I'd kick her to the kerb. Completely disrespectful to you. She's flirting up a storm with this other bloke for him to have the balls to say that to her. Makes me angry just hearing that your girl said that to you.

I'm assuming the thing with the friend was just her trying to lighten the mood with a joke or something. Explain that it was not a funny joke, and its timing extremely inappropriate and even hurtful. If she doesn't apologize, I would indeed soft next and, in addition, rethink my relationship.

As for her not having orgasms during vaginal intercourse, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I totally agree that the cause probably is a limiting belief, but the both of you talking about it will only make her repeat this belief and therefore reinforce it. I suggest you undertake action instead. Bring her close to climax orally, then quickly switch to missionary to finish it off. If her excitement goes down instead, you go back to oral until she's almost there, then switch to missionary again. Rinse and repeat until success, she'll love it.

EDIT: Was already suggested, read over it, sorry. I guess that just proves it works

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similar experience happened to me.

With my girl I have been able to make her cum a couple times licking her clit. With my ex gf I used to make her cum all the time with oral sex. The girl I have now said

" you're the only guy that's been able to make me cum by eating me out, another guy once made me cum a different way, but that's about it"

bro, do you think I wanted to hear that shit? I didn't ask or dig into what she said, but it fucked with my head. Now I always get her to a certain point, Ill lick her clit for 10+ mins, and then she rubs it with her finger and cums. Then I penetrate her until we both climax, with a condom is best so you can cum at the same time.

Some girls know their bodies better than others. Alot of times they aren't relaxed for some reason and can't come. Her cuming through vaginal penetration is DIFFERENT than her cumming through oral sex, just like its different if she's fingered.

But as to that comment your gf said, I think its messed up. And you should warn her about her making stupid comments or else she's not gonna be around for long. There's only so much shit you can put up with.

yeah i instantly told her that she should go and fuck him then. and ignored her for a while. she apologised and shit and she probably meant it as a joke but it still fucked with my head.

ill try the licking her until shes close then fuck her though. ive read some of the david shade stuff but a lot of that is based on the TELLING her to cum right? its pretty tough though. i tried it once and kinda fucked it up. i told her she wasnt allowed to cum until i said so.. i was telling her not to cum and brought her closer and closer.. then she couldnt take it and came without my saying.. so i told her to cum for me.. as she was in the middle of it. i dunno if thats wrong or whatever.

it just annoys me that she has already convinced herself that she wont be able to cum from sex. its like forcing a frame on me and its kinda immasculating.

anyways.. ill try the bringing her close with my tongue and then fucking her. and let you know how it goes.

seeing her tomorrow but shes on the blob. dont get me wrong im all for grabbing my board and riding the crimson wave from time to time.. but dont fancy dining by the surf if you catch my drift!

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