Long story short my best mate has just been dumped by his gf of five years, hes obviously upset about it and is convinced getting flowers sent to her work is a good way of getting her back

Is there any advice as to what i can say to make him realise what a terrible idea it really is

No point man!

Let him learn by his mistakes, is the only way.

People on that state of mind ussualy dont follow friends advice or even rationality.

So let him be.

Or

Just tell him you are just going to show how needy and insecure he will, and she will feel bad for you... and if you want to comeback , this is not what you wanna show, but if you wanna learn by mistakes then do it! dont tell that i didnt warn you, this is not hollywood movie!

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

If he's not receptive to your advice directly, which you can gauge in casual conversation, then one other way would be to be a friend to him and take him out and about where there are women.

Tell him you need a wing man and use the time out on the town to illustrate what you know about women. If he witnesses your knowledge in action it might open his mind up a little bit.

But don't take it personally if none of that works. Likely has more to do with his emotional state than anything and if he's not into this before entering that state, he's not likely to adopt or adhere to the ideas behind it.

Taking him to meet other women won't help him at all, he just needs time ALONE, away from relationships and far away from her. Be there for him as a friend, but don't try to push him into unwanted relationships.

One thing is for sure, he has to follow the No Contact rule.

She will try to contact him after he initiates the No Contact rule with her, and if he really wants her back, that's what he's trying to get - but don't let him pull the string too much, she might give up. That's what happened to me once.

If he doesn't want her back, let him be 100% serious about it: He must ignore her attempts, and if he wants - use them to feed his damaged ego, but never let those attempts fool him into pity. She left him, not the other way around.


I just went through the same thing, but I was the dumper - however I was too emotionally attached and followed the exact same pattern as you friend is going through now. I got back with my girlfriend by doing what I just mentioned above, but I can't say it's 100% for the best (getting back to a relationship will always cost you something), so have him consider his relationship seriously.

I've tried explaining the no contact rule to him but all i get is 'yeah but what if she starts texting someone else'

wouldn't mind but she turned herself into a 3/10 (way to many mcdonalds)

I used to think i was a bit of a loser for coming on sites like this but not i totally realise it gives most of us an edge over other men, nearly every girl i've been with cant understand why i'm so much harder to wind up then other guys