I love my girlfriend, been dating her for 7 months now (seeing her for 9 months). I'm 19 years old and am a college sophomore and am in a fraternity with constant parties during the school year with attractive women that want me :/

She's really awesome and would stick with me through tick and thin and pleases me with anything I want to do sexually.

I tried to become a professional poker player at one point and she even stuck with me through me spending 20 hours being a fiend at the casino on weekends and still waited for me to get back home to cook me food and sleep with me.

She's 100% loyal and I trust her, I really wouldn't trust any other girl that I know at my school.


Despite all this I want to be single. I've only slept with 3 women in my life and feel i haven't really ever enjoyed the fruit of being single and youthful. I am very attractive and get eye fucked by hb8s at my school every day, it's so frustrating.

Honestly if I was 30 years old and wanted a family I would marry her in a heart beat, she would be an awesome mother and wife.



Please give me helpful words of wisdom or things to think about.

Thanks

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This girl sounds like a rare catch. Has she ever done anything that you disapproved of? If she hasn't, I'd stick it out with her until you're more confident in what you want to do.

However, if she's annoying you now, cut her loose and enjoy college!

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First of all I hate to burst your bubble, and I am very glad that you have a great gf! but no women will "stick with you through thick and thin" unless her interest level is high, lucky for you at this point it seems that your interest level or value is above 90%, I would guess this is because you have higher social value being in a frat, having lots of friends and being around women often? the reality is that If you start to slip up, act beta, and her value level drops she will not put up with your gambling, or any other crap in your life, in fact the lower your value or her interest level the less and less you can get away with! I am not saying this to be a dick but rather to open your eyes to how women work, and how they think....she is a women, its not her fault she was born that way lol

So what is my advice? well If you still have strong feelings for her? which you have no made clear? then I would try to work things out, I would talk to her about how you feel, and try to re ignite the "flame" you once had....the grass is always greener on the other side! that being said keep in mind what I first told you! women are ALL the same! they will do anything you want when you are a high value alpha male, but as soon as you become beta, and as soon as she feels your interest level is greater then hers she will start to bitch, pick fights, and become the women you never thought she could be! so If you are going to stay with her make sure you keep hanging with the boys, talk to girls occasionally, spend time apart and keep her working, you have her in a perfect spot right now! she seems to be head over heals for you!?

Now If you don't feel like she is "the one" and you won't miss her all that much then I would say end it and do quick! but don't do it because you have only slept with 3 girls....trust me your "number" doesn't matter, I regret every one night stand I ever had! and it was more about ego when I was younger then it was about enjoying the experience! one night stands usually suck! the best sex I have is when Im in a relationship because my gf knows what I like, and you will rarely get head from a one night stand haha

Listen only you know what you want, some guys are born to have one night stands and that makes them happy, others are born to enjoy a monogamous relationships, only sleeping with 3 chicks doesn't make you any less of an alpha, or any less of a man unless you think it does? guys who are happy with them self don't worry about their "number" they worry about being happy, doing what they want, so just be happy, do what makes you happy! its tough I know but no one here can get inside your head and only you know what you want.

Remember though, once its over its usually over! and the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Im happy being in the relationship, but i'm also happy being out of one. I just get pretty sad/reminiscent when i'm at a party with my girlfriend and all my single friends are having a blast hitting on girls and what not.

Worth it? More like you owe it to her.

If you are still having those kinds of thoughts, you're not ready to be in a relationship, and it's not fair to continue leading your girlfriend on - particularly when she's been as great a partner as you outline in your post.

Your boy,
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Don't leave her to chase something you aren't sure you even want. Don't betray her

Talk to your girl about a threesome, you might be surprised how many girls are game for this. Ya'll are young and still have much to experience in your lives, maybe this will make your relationship stronger!


Peace...

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She's way too attached for a threesome lol, she definitely sees herself marrying me unless we breakup. I've already tried that, it would just mess things up honestly.

Listen man don't try for a threesome that is a horrible idea! chances are it will only back fire!

No matter who you are you will always want other women, its natural, and sometimes you don't really know what you have until its gone, until its too late and you have completely lost it! so make sure that if you break things off you are 100% ready and there is no looking back...it sounds to me like you care about this girl but your relationship has become routine and boring? you want that fresh feeling again! like when you and her first met and she was the only girl you looked at?

Let me turn the table on you for a second? what if she called you today and said "I don't feel the same way about you any more, I want to break up" how would you feel? If you can honestly say it would not bother you then break up with her! do it fast and don't drag it out any longer....she deserves to be with someone who is going to give the same amount of effort as she is and right now you are not.

It's pretty hard to make it as exciting as being single in college with all these girls running around. But on the other hand I do care for her and she is really awesome.

gah, basically what im asking is,

is being single for a couple years in college necessary? I went into college with my hs gf and basically jumped out of that relationship into this one. Ive never been single since I discovered PUA sh$t and feel like it's necessary, but at the same time I dont want to breakup with my hb 8 girlfriend that loves me and does everything to find out I want her back after a couple of random lays and parties.

Anyone have any personal experience?

Well let me tell you strait up one night stands are over rated! they seem better in your head then they really are lol I regret them all because it was a lot of risk with very little reward! its sex with a girl who doesn't know what you like in bed....usually sloppy and drunk.

As for fuck buddies that is a different story, the sex is good because its frequent and you get to know what each other likes but the women always get attached at some point, they let their emotions get in the way and often want you as a bf, at which point its to late because you will think of her as the "slutty" girl you banged when you were horny and you will have to break her heart.

When it comes to partying nothing really changes other then the fact that you have the freedom to grind up on chicks and say w.e you want....I still game girls while in a relationship so for me nothing changed

When you are single you will have a lot more freedom! you can be very very selfish! sleep in, go to the gym when you want, get high when you want, just be completely selfish and you really only have your self to look out for! this is probably the one thing I miss the most!

So you be the judge...there are pro's and con's to both, you are still very young! but you sound like you have a good girl....put you ego aside, and don't worry about how many girls you have slept with. No one can give you the answer, I know that is what you are looking for but only you know what is best for you!

IMO you still really like your gf, and I think if you break things off you will miss her...BUT there are other women out there! millions of other women you will meet who you can have a relationship with so either way I don't think you can make a wrong choice.

not their fault man. blame the oxytocin

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haha its true man!

Sounds like your a lucky man I had a girl like this for 5 years (the one and only girl I had sex with at the time) at 24 years old decided that I hadn't experienced single life thoroughly, wasn't ready for marriage. I did my self a favor and broke it off with her. Explained why and she was gone the next day. Toughest decision I had ever made but I am a much happier person now.
You need to decided man it would be a bad move to lead her on, or worse slip up one night and have her find out.

You didnt later regret breaking up with her?