STORY IS WORTH THE READ! HELP ME! It's not as long as it looks. Skim through the Perfect Girl section if need be. It's basically what I see as the perfect girl.

BUT JUST INCASE:: TL;DR::

- I have a great girlfriend that I would marry in a heartbeat. I love her, she loves me, I seem to have the upper hand in the relationship and I get annoyed at times, but I look at that as human nature. I can't imagine life without her and if we broke up, no matter who initiates it and for whatever reason, both of us would be hurt.
- I have an ideal "perfect girl" and my GF fits a lot of the description but there are other, fairly important things, that she doesn't have. Some are negative things. Although, these are things that I can live without if I come to the realization that it gets no better. I don't want to leave her and figure out that I can't find anyone better.
- I'm 19 and from time to time I wonder if she's the one... if there's anything better out there. What I don't want though, is to let my curiosity get the best of me and end up losing the best thing that I could have. We've been together almost 1.5yrs. Does the perfect GF still exist? Should I risk giving up the best thing I have in search of better, with the risk of settling for less? Is it worth it?


We all look for certain things in Women, and we all have our "Perfect Girl" in our head. They're all different and it's very unlikely that we all have the same expectations for our perfect girl.

The reason for this thread is, I'm in a relationship, which is why I'm posting this in this section. We've been together for almost 1.5yrs

I feel like I love my girlfriend and I'm more than certain that she loves me. We had a lot of problems in the beginning but I confronted her about them and after a while of taking you guys advice I turned her into a great girlfriend. The problem with this is, sometimes I'm really into it, and other times I'm not. I always love her but she annoys me sometimes. I always push this feeling off thinking to myself, "My mom annoys my stepdad sometimes, it happens. (They're married. 11 yrs I think)"

As far as being a girlfriend goes, she gives me all the attention I could ever need. She cooks for me. She LOVES sports! She used to be a fan of my NFL Rival (Baltimore Ravens) but only because that's the "home team" but now she's a fan of my team (Pittsburgh Steelers). I feel like she would be a great mother in the future and a very faithful wife. It always seems like she'll do anything to make me happy, even things that I wouldn't expect her to do.

Now for the bad. We have completely opposite backgrounds and I feel like we don't really relate that well as far as lifestyles go. She was very sheltered as a teenager and was almost given no freedom due to her very strict muslim parents. Her parents don't know about me, which I had a huge problem with at first, but I can understand now after reading about the "honor killings" that some muslims would do. Apparently it's against the "rules" for a muslim girl to date anyone outside of the religion and I most certainly would not convert to Islam for her parents to know about me (no offense to muslims on here) some of the beliefs are outrageous to me. She has a very small family and they're not close at all. Her dad is very... stern... boring... plain? Her mom is just very over protective and treats her like she's 12. We don't really have any interesting conversations often. When we go out we have fun, but I don't feel like we "click" like we should.

NOTE:: I can't imagine my life without her in it. I've been a HUGE part in her life and a big part of her "growing up" not physically but mentally. She thanks me all the time for this and tells me that her dad, although living with them, was never really around due to work and that I've kinda picked up his slack. Her family has a completely different culture than mine since we're a different race and from different places. When I try to have intellectual conversations with her she acts scared to give her opinion like I'm gonna call her stupid if it's different than mine. My parents love her. Whatever happens I don't think I would ever be able to cut her completely out of my life because she's such a big part of it, but on the flip side, I don't think we'll be able to be "just friends" because we would both be hurt.

She's a 7-8/10 (not sure if it's bcuz I'm in a LTR with her, but I'm sure that affects it).

PERFECT GIRL:: I've always imagined my "perfect girl" having a decent sized, close knit family that I can relate to and blend with when we get married. A family that will know about me by the time my family knows about her and won't have huge problems with us dating. Someone that's really fun to talk to and hang out with. All the good qualities listed above ^^. A girl who's not afraid to let their opinion be heard. A girl that still focuses on their life and goals and puts them before me (to an extent). Faithful, Loyal, and honest. Willing to reach outside their comfort zone if it means making me happy (not that I'd let them. It's just nice to know that they would). Adventurous! Hasn't slept around or sucked too many guys dicks (less than 5-6 preferably - I'm still young. 19). Would speak up if they feel some type of way instead of showing it through actions instead. Sweet and not hard as a rock on the outside.

PHYSICAL TRAITS OF P.G.:: Nice smile. A nice smile is a must and I must stress it. Takes care of hair. Is a CLEAN PERSON!!! (Hygiene!) At least small tits and ass (can't have a twig). Shorter than me or my height (5'10 - or a small unnoticeable bit taller ). Good dresser, raises sex appeal through the roof. LEGGINGS! PREFERENCES:: Nice ass (shape), decent size tits (big enough to squeeze without squeezing the skin around her chest (I have big hands ), nice eyes (not color, just look), clear face. Athletic personality and body.

So I have to ask. Does the perfect girl exist or should I stick with what I have now?

I would marry this girl in a heartbeat but the question is always on my mind wondering if I can do better. She's great but there's still things that could be better. Like I said before, I'm still young and the questions pops up every now and then about whether she's the one or not. On the flip side, I don't want to go searching for the non-existant girl and lose a great one that I've become attached to emotionally.

What do I do in this situation? I thought about letting her know that we're still young and I just want to see what else is out there for me but I don't want to do that. She would be hurt and I would be hurt. Especially if I can't find anyone else like her.

I figured that some of you may have been in a similar situation before and can give me some tips/advice/experiences.[/b]

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Yeah, of course that type of girl exists. However, you will absolutely 100% change your opinion of what the perfect girl is as you get older. Most of the stuff you listed isn't anywhere on my list (a girls family? I couldn't care less. How many people she's been with before me? Don't care.)

In my opinion, the only real thing that matters is how a girl treats you, "does this girl treat you well, turn you on, and make you happy?" If the answer to all that is "yes", then why would you go looking for a different one?

On another note, don't worry about this stuff yet. You have plenty of time to find the girl you want to marry.. there's no need to rush (if you get married before the age of 25, then you have a much higher likelihood of getting a divorce). You have the next decade. Go have fun. Keep in mind that you are young and this relationship probably wont last. Furthermore, you will only get more experienced with and more attractive to women as you get older.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wolf

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You sound to me like you have symptoms that I had once upon a time. I can tell you this, if you are thinking about the possibilities of someone else, it's because issues in your relationship are not as good as you want them to be. My advise to you is to talk about the issues with her.

If her family situation bothers you, tell her this. Find a solution. Either your conversation will assure you it's a problem that can be solved, or it cannot and you should set her free to find someone better suited.

I will never, ever, suggest to someone that they should settle. I did it, and it blew up in my face. If you're wondering, figure out why you are wondering, talk with her about it, and find an answer, then execute it.

Wolf's answers on the definition of the perfect girl and it changing is spot on. 10 years from now some things on your list will not matter to you at all, and other things will become important. You don't have to worry about marriage and kids if you're 19. Take the relationship for what it is today. If you're still together and happy 10 years from now, then marriage might be a good idea. But if you still have the same feelings then that you do now, that will mean you didn't man up and face them one way or another. Your best bet it to figure out why you are wondering what you are and go from there. For instance, is your problem her? Or is it possible that you're just one of those guys who will always want another woman, or a better one no matter who you have? Nothing wrong with never being a one woman guy, you just need to figure out who you are and what you want. Not uncommon for a guy your age.

There is no solution in these matters. I ve done my research onthat.

Somethings are just deal breakers. It is a shame but someone is never the only option.

Lots of girls would fit into this list.
I don't think it is healthy for this relationship to continue because it only can bring negative things.
I also don't believe that there are men that are lots of women's men. It is either a man is normal and sleeps around until a certain age that he feels he wants to settle down or he has issues.
If you are past 40, never got married and want to still want to sleep around means that something is not right in your head. It is the same ridiculous as a 40 year old woman wearing pink clothes has her hair in pigtails and wears extreamely mini pink skirts because she doesn't accept her age.