It was eventually going to happen, we started a long distance relationship, and her nan recently died who she was close to, she called me to tell me what i already knew what was happening, it just wasn't working, i was able to turn around so it more seemed like i was splitting up with her not the other way, just I'm worried about damage control, SPAM I'm fine i have alot of good friends and and things going on around my life, at the same time though i feel a bit distressed that a relationship i was used to has now finished.

Her ex friend who lives with me, strangely who has been flirting with me for a long time, has turned very cold and bitchy, since she heard we split up which is kind of ironic, as she was very flirty and close to me when my and my ex where together.

Bottom line i just can't trust most people anymore, i see everyone like a disobedient child who can't be given too much attention otherwise they will take too much for granted, i am concerned about going back into the game. I am at university at the moment so its not hard to pull, but i think this experience has shook me up a bit.
I am coming to the PUA forum for advice, as you guys know what its truly like out there.
Many thanks

Like all relationships end in a way you don't desire, you're just down a little because of it.

Pick yourself up, get out there, and use your freedom to your advantage. You now have a green light ticket to hit on any woman you please. Get at it.

Cheers, on a positive i know how to handle women now, so being single will be a different experience than previously. Peace

Long distance sucks btw, as I'm sure you found out.

I got really irritated with the "Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with?" texts when I announced I was going out. One of the best parts of being single again is you can do that without your phone blowing up. Go out with your friends- you'll see what I mean.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Beginning to feel down about it now, more or less because I'm looking back at when things were good between us, and starting to feel like i can't be bothered with other girls again, i know its the wrong attitude but apathy is beginning to reign, anyone have any advice ??? cheers

You feel what you think about. Don't get locked into a bad cycle of remembering the good, and feeling bad about it. There's nothing wrong with recalling good memories, but keep things in perspective. When you start to feel bad about it, remind yourself to think about all the things that were not so great. Recalling those thoughts should remind you of why it ended.

And remember, everyone feels like you do about their breakup, and they all survive. Read some other posts recently on this topic. I'd post links, but there are several. Pick yourself up. Once you do, you'll have confidence just from that alone.

Cheers thats good advice, it is pretty standard to feel that way i suppose, there are women around, but i just don't feel bothered at the moment to chase them, it feels strange being back in the game. On a positive note i am very busy and have a lot of people around me. I am weary about asking for advice or talking about it to people though because i know how people don't like to have their mood dragged down.

I agree. When I say sarge, I mean do it for the fun of it. It is fun to make a girl smile, even if you have no intention of doing more than that with her. Engage in activities that you enjoy, that make you feel good.

You'll come around. Acknowledge that it hurts sometimes because she wasn't just a one night stand. Acknowledge that there are reasons why it didn't work out, and that it is ok that it didn't work out. Have a little fun and try to enjoy your new freedom. You never know when you're going to start gaming a girl that can replace what you lost, but you don't want to miss the opportunity because you're still hung up on an ex. It might even help you to get over it all by responding to others in your shoes here telling them what has worked for you. Positive reinforcement.

Thanks fellas
Well its been about a week now, i feel a lot better, i was free in the relationship, she wasn't a dominating women in any means, however i feel free because there is a burden off my shoulders now. I sometimes get sad when i think of the good times we had, the start and middle of the relationship, but then i think of what it was like towards the end, and how i was the one making most of the effort and feeling down. Again its about controlling your mind, and not having a passive negative attitude.

I was close to dumping her a couple of times a couple weeks before, but i decided to give her another chance, because i respected that she was busy at work, but when her nan died, i think that was like a release valve and the strain all came to the surface.

I am getting on with my life, i have a lot of projects, and now i can flirt without restraint now, i get a lot of female attention from female friends, which is great. And of course friends have been supportive, and forum members here.

I am feeling apathetic when it comes to girls, and can't be bothered to start dating or f*cking again, but I'm sure that will soon go, there are a lot of honeys in university :p

Cheers again for the advice, i wish there was a way i could repay you in the future for the words of support.

You'll have chances to repay. Just remember what helps get you over the hump and good things you learn and when you see a brother posting asking for your help, shell it out.