My girlfriend and I are on to our 4th month and if you have read my previous threads you'll realise how happy we are together. I require three things in a relationship (Love, Respect and intimacy) and she provides all three so I'm not even planning on cheating on her. I passed all her shit tests with finesse.

I made an AFC bitch move a month ago. I transferred her SPAM messages to my PC while she was sleeping and went through her conversation with her best friend and this is what I found out.

She has been getting lifts from some dude from place to place. This dude picks her up from one place and takes her to her house or from her house to another place. He drives a sportscar and is older than us (We are Eighteen)

I called her up on this but I lied and said one of her friends was concerned and called me to tell me about this. She bought it and explained that the guy is just a friend but they almost had a relationship. She said she will do her best to keep a distance from then on.

2 weeks back she brought up the subject and said that the guy called her the previous day and she answered the call and she just wanted to let me know that they spoke and that the guy knows about our relationship and is jealous of me that he couldn't get to where I am with her even though he's been trying for 3 years.

I checked her SPAM messages again last night and according to recent messages with her best friend she is irritated by Mr. Sportscar. Her friend was prompting her to get money from Mr. Sportscar but my girl refused.

I promised myself that it's the last time I do such.

She invests into our relationship more than I do (65/35 scale) and hasn't given me reasons besides this to doubt her.

What should I look out for? Should she still be allowed to talk to this guy? Any tips?

EDIT: She had a boyfriend that I destroyed to get her. He was also older, had a job and also drove a nice car. It was kinda a big deal for me as a school kid to take her away from that guy but I guess I'm also insecure that she might wanna go back as I can't provide the same financial standards. I give her great sex all the time and use every bit of info I've picked up to keep our relationship fresh. She is an HB7-8 by the way.

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Tell her if she associates with that guy anymore it's over, even if you aren't serious. Make a big deal about it and put your foot down or you might get pealed.

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I'm conflicted about who gets the upper hand from me doing that.

If I tell her that I might DHV the guy by appearing too phased by him.

But then again I might DHV myself by letting her know that I am prepared to leave at any time and she has to work her ass off to keep me...

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You are conflicted, you are not in upper hand, checking her txts, and being insecure because he has better car , and perhaps a better dick.

Check that atitude bro... It only destroy your relantioship, ive done that, it doesnt help.

You know what you are showing that your are an afc it doesnt matter what you are going to tell her, if you dont believe in what you are saying, trust me unconscioly girls tend to pick things, that is not coming out of your mouth

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Sounds solid. Thanx bra.

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Been going through some posts on this forum and I realised something I already learnt from way back: This guy has as much value as I give to him. The more I concentrate on him the more valuable he appears not only to me but to my Girlfriend aswell.

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Allowed? What are you, her father?

You need to lay off the possessive bullshit almost as badly as you need to lay off the insecurity-driven violations of her privacy from which you gleaned this piece of information in the first place.

A relationship can't survive long when it's lacking its most fundamental building block: trust. You violated hers because she never had yours in the first place, mistakes I hope you won't repeat with your next girlfriend.

Your boy,
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