Me and her had a good relationship of 2 months, her last ex's mum lives above her in her flat. last friday he went round there because he was upset or something and went to see my then current gf.

we already were arguing about something different that night. I said to her that I'm off back to mine in a taxi because it was my friends birthday and didn't want to spend the night arguing. this was at like 3 am and she says : " why would I care, when I have him in my bed" I decided not to respond to this but rather ring her up and tell her it was over because of this.

Over the weekend she pleaded with me not to finish her and insisted nothing went on, she said he stayed in her bedroom and she stayed on the sofa. on sunday night she told me she could have seen herself settling down with me and having kids etc etc! and that she loves me!

I told her I couldn't get back with her after saying her ex was in her bed because I felt she crossed the line. I know she might have just said it to get a reaction from me.

she is now back with her ex (she texted me this on tuesday and say's she played me all along just to get him back, which I know is bullshit)

You guys got any thoughts on this? was I right to end it due to her having an ex in her flat?

Walk away from the dirty skank unless you want to share the taste of that other dudes cock! fucking drop her like a bag of garbage!

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pfffff....ditch the chick! what a disrespectful little bitch. "He's already in bed"????

First of all why is he alone with her? let alone in her bed?

She's bad news man! kick her to the curb!

thanks for the responses!

Yeah i binned her and ditched her that night (friday night/ saturday morning) even to lie a thing about him being in her bed crosses the line in my eyes.

I dont know why he was alone with her, he was upset or something and went to see her! she told me to come to hers while he was there but I thought I could trust her and I was at a close friends bday!

I found out she was a 'slag' while I was with her (40 + guys) but didn't expect games like this.

Urgh things like this make me loose faith in women, anyway yeah good job on ditching the skank, what a disrespectful thing to say to you.

Don't man, good girls are still out there, just gotta get through the bad ones like this girl who disrespected him but he did the best thing he could do, she will remember him of the guy who dropped her because she disrespected him, she knows he respects himself and others better do to. High value!

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And when them two split up again she'll try it on with you, at that point you tell her to go fuck herself

Every girl I have broken up with did at least one of two things:

1. Put on weight
2. Get back with an ex

If it's the latter, you'll be a little pissed sure, but take note: it won't last long. She's trying to find the most immediate way to fill the void you left. Stay focused on your mission in life; better people are bound to come your way.

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What a bitch. You're so much better off without a drama queen like that. Don't even take her calls anymore.

Just an update..

she kept texting me on friday night that she loves me and is just using this other guy. this was over Facebook/text/voicemails!

I decided to stand by my decision of ditching her, especially as she has been with him all week. she removed me off fb when I threatened to send our convo to her ex to stop him being a constant doormat for her to walk all over. (the convo included stuff like "hes not you, my love for you is far far more") etc etc

I met her during a day-game sarge but I'll just put this relationship as experience.

She's an emotionally manipulative bitch. Tell her to go fuck herself.

The whole "She said she could see herself settling down with me" thing is definite manipulative BS. She's the kind of woman that will say anything to get what she wants with no thought to her meaning.

She's openly admitting to using another guy, why would you even want to be around someone like that?

That girl is pure venom, man. Get that negativity out of your life, and I guarantee you'll find someone 10x better. You may even know one already.

another update..

she saw me in a club the other week and immediately came up to me and texted the ex, in front of me, saying "its ove, not happy anymore"

she then tried it on with me all night and I managed to resist the temptation to get with her, the night ended, she was a mess, drunk, couldnt walk and I walked her home (she lives in the centre of my city) and made sure she got home safe, then rejoined my mates to go home/

Ever since then she has been saying she wants to get back with me, its hard because I really did like her but Im still standing by my initial decision of breaking up!

Please do not even entertain the idea of getting back with her. She is trash. I know your immediate reaction is to feel defensive of her despite knowing what she's done, and I know we don't understand every single variable and dynamic of your past relationship. But she's not fucking worth it. She'll do this again down the road and there's nothing you can do to stop it because she's simply not loyal. You can do better.

wise words!! i was in a relationships like yours, even though my gf back then had texted her ex that she loved him still. i still keept her, despite what every one on this forum would tell me, i would not listen to any fucking advice because i was in love.
looking back, i am glad i did what i did because it probably got me where i am today, but i should have dumped her way before i did.. i broke up many times, then just taking her back some weeks later, now i am completely over her, and i really don't see why the fuck i stood by her despite all of her fucking bullshit, emotionally fucked up girls is girls you need to stay away from!!

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