My GF always had problems being sexual towards me (im her first boyfriend btw) because she is afraid that she will be seen as a slut.. We have a lot of discussions about this.. Ill give some examples:

GF: Like last time when i came over to watch a movie and we ended up having sex, then i enjoy the sex ofcourse but when im on my way home im thinking "what have i done"
GF: I look like a slut, just coming over for sex and leaving back home again

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The next convo happened when we were on a little break and weren't officialy dating but still seeing eachother:

GF: Im in my bed i miss you blabla
Me: Well then you should have asked me to come over!
GF: No that slutty
Me: What is?
GF: Asking if you want to sleep at my place

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Stuff like this, we talked about this issue for a long time and im trying to explain her that its natural and normal and everyone does it blabla but she says "i just can't get that in my head!"

It also has a lot to do with her family, for example her mom will call her a slut when she wears high heels to a party...


The thing is i know she has a wild dirty side, like in the past we did some dirty sex talk on text and i know she likes that, we also exchanged nude pictures with eachother... Its just that i feel like she doesn't want to have sex that often cause she thinks she's a slut if she does...

Any way to take care of this problem ? I have tried to talk to her about it but it doesn't really seem to help..

Also is this maybe one of those girls that doesn't like rough sex and just wants it slow and romantic so she doesn't feel like a slut or something? I have no clue at the moment..

Thanks in advance!

No, that doesn't indicate whether she's into rough or soft sex. She has just been raised with conservative beliefs. Don't take to heart what she says about the subject. You are free to escalate with her sexually and she will likely cave in. When a human is told they can't have something, they tend to want it more. With women, actions are typically incongruent with words.

If you just fuck her and then immediately kick her out of the house then yea I can see why she would feel slutty but if you're romantic and passionate with the sex then I don't see the problem. Maybe instead of telling her that sex is "normal" and "everyone does it" you could reframe sex as a special shared and romantic experience. I'm sure this would give her much more justification.

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Sex is a human thing, having sex does not make you a slut it makes you human. We do what we enjoy, and the beautiful part about anything like this is doing it with someone you can love and cherish, someone you have a connection with, someone who I can still feel when the passion has passed. We give all of ourselves to each other, share something that cant be shared easily.

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Want to learn how to talk to a woman. Go out in the woods and pet a wild animal, if you come back with both of your hands, you're in.

I am the biggest slut I know and I am ok with that. Also I have big ego and self confidence and do not have any fuck to give on some one who judges me. Your girl on the other hand might have some obstetrical to over come before she is comfortable in her skin. You should show her that her feelings towards sex are valid but that she needs to feel safe with you before she can unleash the gilt and open up in more ways then one. Ask her what her views on a slut is an why this is a bad thing? have her explain her fears and work with her to let her know that her fears are just that. Fear. Its not the dark ages where we are going to make her wear a scarlet letter for showing her affection. I wish they did still make them wear a big letter S for Slut so I could pick them out faster. But oh well.

Also turn her on make her hot and then stop. Have her begging for you but your just like nope. Make her chase you and you be the slut and she is making you do things.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Women are emotional creatures, you cannot "convince" them using logic. You need to convince her using your actions. "train" her to like sex. Dont talk about it, initiate it. After your done, she will be very receptive to everything. REWARD her for having sex by telling her how much you liked it. Stay naked together and touch her afterwards (she will probably shiver because she will be very sensitive). Once this is established, you can continue to push for more, as long as you make her feel that you are not using her.

If she still continues to call herself a slut, it is probably a shit test. say something cocky/funny like: yeah but your my slut so its all good (with a grin on your face) then give her a kiss.

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